It seems really pointless. Most marriages don't last very long anyways, so why take the risk of someone taking half of your shit in the first place?
Most Helpful Girl
the point of getting married is to share my life with someone i love under the blessings of the holy spirit that unites my soul with another. id vow to love them wholeheartedly till i die.
many marriages dont last, sure, but many also do, and I'm not sure how people can be so stupid to disregard that. I'm gonna b in one of those marriages that lasts.
a lot of things in life involve risk but we do them because we want to... that argument is quite weak. like why ride a motorbike when u can be in the safety of a car? why have sex without a condom when u know u could get her pregnant? why drink that extra bottle of booze when u know ur driving home that night? ... we're humans... it's in our nature to take risks for things and people we love.2
Most Helpful Guy
I have contributed a few posts explaining the utility of being legally married. Here is a cut and paste excerpt from one such post:
Above and beyond all the emotional, financial, psychological, sexual and companionship reasons to marry, being legally married means that:
- should my wife become sick, I can give medical directions on her behalf. She can do the same for me.
- if she were to die, I would inherit our family home without paying an inheritance tax (she owned the home prior to marrying me)
- I have the right to receive her body and observe her burial requests
- she is elegible to be on my employer's health insurance plan.
- we pay federal income taxes at a lower effective rate
- marriage gave me the authority to represent myself as the step-father of my wife's daughters She receives the same authority to represent herself as my child's step mom.
- she is elegible to be the beneficiary of my life insurance
- we may be jointly considered for credit application
- we automatically inherit each others worldly possessions without the necessity of probate court
When I was in the military, there were many benefits that accrued ONLY to married people:
- basic allowance for housing (single men lived on board the ship)
- family separation allowance (paid while deployed)
- CHAMPUS (dependant health insurance)
- access to the ombudsman program (best source of info on ship's schedule)
- access to base facilities including the exchange and the subsidized commissary
- access to base housing
- the right to be relocated to overseas duty stations with military member
It goes on and on this way. Marriage is woven into everything. The main intent is not so much that you change your status toward each other but rather you change your status before the state.
As far as the "she takes half of you shit" argument goes, that's not the way it commonly works anymore. Women earn their own wages and contribute to the household too. In that context, half of HER shit is yours too. As a practical matter, each party leaves the marriage with their own shit most of the time.
When I divorced I got custody of my son and I kept all my household goods.
When my current wife divorced her first husband, she made no claim against his future pension.
Basically, you are speaking in stereotypes and I'm speaking from first hand experience.1