I'm getting married soon. And here in the UK they're terribly common. Where I'm from not so much.
So my fiance recently asked what I was gonna do for me "Hens night" and I was like "what? " I wasn't planning on doing one because I don't see the point?
Then he asked if I mind if he has one. And well it's not the end of the world, I recongnize it's some kind of tradition but you know so was burning people alive for a while, so I said I don't see the point?
If he wants to go out with his friends he can do that any night from now until he dies, so what's so special about that one night?
He said it's about celebrating your last night "in freedom" because marriage is lifelong imprisonment? I really don't understand. I think it's stupid. Maybe it had it's place when people got married in their teens and not getting married was not an option, but times have changed. If he wants to live "in freedom" he can. But he choose no to. So I don't know it's a really weird concept
Most Helpful Guy
You have conflicting opinions about it. If he can go out anytime he wants, why not let him celebrate this tradition, where his friends can roast him and jest at his expense, people can try and tempt him, he can indulge in things (like dance with other women) that he doesn't normally do, in order to experience how he feels.
You don't want to risk him into a marriage that turns out to be a mistake, do you? I believe the purpose of the event is to test their convictions, that they really and truly and deeply want this marriage, that they have thought about it fully, and then they are willing and able to commit with a concrete mind.
Marriage is forever, so let him go through this rite of passage and survive to find you on the other end.1
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I am not sure what's in Store and More in the UK, but in the USA, there is what is referred to as "Jack and Jill " parties. This a Huge party for all of YOUR FRIENDS AND HIS, Family too, where everyone brings a gift for Both of you, or there is a price per person or couple taken at the door, so they can both go shopping at the store.
You BOTH partake, and I feel with This, it is Not A... Hit or Miss.
I am hearing More and more about the "Jack and Jill" deal, instead of the separate boring His and Her parties, that may soon, who Knows... Be outdated.
Good luck, throw it his way today. xxoo0