So my husband and I got married on July 1st of this year and are planning on having an actual wedding celebration sometime mid to late next year.
(Before somebody sees fit to criticize us, I'd just like to say that early marriage was necessary to protect out relationship from forces outside our control. And because it was so sudden, nothing was organized. I got married in sneakers, ripped jeans, and a Five Finger Death Punch tee; so we'd like an official do-over with a white dress.)
Any ideas to design this wedding? I think instead of super official vows we'll sit down and write our own together. Probably keep it lighthearted with lines like "I promise to not deny being hungry and then eat half of what you order". And have a close friend or family member stand in the officiate's spot. And then instead of a really dressed up reception I'll have a big BBQ at my parent's house? I still want cake and pictures- most of the whole wedding package. But not so fancy; I'd like to be a princess, but not a boring one.
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My brother and sister in law did the same thing but for different reasons, and I may do the same thing myself here in a bit. I have also been to a LOT of weddings over the past few years and I can say one thing in common about 75% of them have. Weddings are boring as hell. You have an opportunity to have some real fun with it.
“Official vows” are dull and don’t really mean as much, writing them yourself not only makes them more personal, and entertaining to your guests, but they mean so much more coming from your heart. The best vows I ever heard was at my cousin’s wedding a month ago. His wife spent a good five minutes spurting off calculations to prove that because she was younger than him they had been together for a longer percentage of her life than his life therefore meaning that she loved him more than he loved her. It was fun, cute, and it had real love behind it. They also had a 23 year old flower girl which was amazing…
My Brother’s wedding had the best reception I have ever been too because there was something for every one of the 200+ guests there. Open bar, karaoke, cigar/whisky table, arcade cabinets, board games, dancing, home brewed beer, a DJ. It was just all around good fun with good people. Your back yard BBQ sounds like you are shooting for the same sort of thing but you should totally do the one thing he did not… get a bounce house.1