I know I can`t marry her unless I convert and she is the one for me that is for sure, now both of us are virgins that is maybe why I was accepted easier to the family.
She has told her parents and I have sat with her dad and been invited around their house for dinner. All good but I`m curious as to how the wider muslim community and her relatives will view me as this is the first marriage of this type to occur in their family.
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I've seen it happen a couple of times, in fact my French Math teacher converted and he married another Yemeni teacher in my school. He's completely accepted and they have 2 kids.
It all depends on the family as-well, but your girlfriend's family seems to be cool.2
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Am a Saudi guy and my 2nd wife is an American that converted to Islam.
When we first got together, I was living in US as a student. We now live in Qatar in an expatriate community together with my 2 other wives.
In terms of being accepted, this isn't really an Islamic thing, this is more of a race, tribe or cultural issue that is separate from religion. If you are living in a Western country and marrying a girl who is a 2nd or 3rd generation then it will be significantly different from you moving to an Asian or Arabian country.
My 2nd wife, unlike the other 2 wasn't an arranged marriage, my wives are accepting of her, the children from the 1st as well as the 3rd wife are accepting of her (other than the time she disciplines them), my parents approve of her and encouraged me to live in a gated expatriate community so things are easier on her, there are some relatives that dislike her purely because she is an American and regardless of what she does they would still dislike her.
In terms of religion, I never once told her she had to convert, technically she didn't need to convert as she was a Catholic, I always told her look for similarities between religions rather than differences as there is only 1 God. I never once told her to go for any kind of religious classes and if she needed to know anything there is always a very good Quran in English either on the computer or in the drawer and if she wanted there were several good books on understanding Islam that she could read. These days she is the more pious one and in many ways I have to give it to her that she is probably more a Muslim than I would ever be. She is well accepted in the circles she is involved with especially in school and the various groups she is into and yes I do keep an eye what is it she is involved with.
Therefore to the question asker. I would say there isn't a hard and fast rule but it is a very good start to be accepted by her immediate family as usually the rest will fall in line.1