All my friends are getting married!
I'm depressed.. I'm gonna turn 30 and be single!
It's hard to find the right man!
When I was 18 and met my ex's parents they were both 36 and had a little 18 month old girl... At the time I thought they were both hot... And young and fun!
But here I am now at 29... I'm single... And I feel like its all over... Like I will never find someone... Like I've ended up alone... Like my biological clock is ticking... Like I don't have long left before my looks deteriorate (even tho everyone days I look 21)...
What is wrong with me?
Are my worries valid?
Maybe it's cos everyone I know my age is getting married and having kids!
Is is my biological clock in grave danger! Is it now or never? All my friends are having babies now...
soon on ill be so old and wrinkly no one will want me hey?
Most Helpful Guy
I won't presume to have the authority to tell you what you're feeling is wrong or right.
The last thing you want to read is criticism and it's irresponsible for someone to tell you everything is fine.
I'm a Man and that already disqualifies me from all kinds being taken seriously, by many Women.
I don't have the inherent influences that your hormones can instill.
My gender not only distances me from your cultural perspective, it also opens a gaping cataract between virtually every physiological trait that even after a few hundred thousand years, evolution still treats like oil and water.
So where's the common ground?
Our Human Nature.
Honey, all I have to offer is a brief history that began from feeling similar to you.
This by no means implies that the same will happen to you. My perspective is only that. It is not an example for others.
But it is my hope, you might dig a little deeper into your own Nature.
It is a vast reservoir you just haven't been alive long enough to grasp the scope of.
'Know what? I'm in my fifties and I haven't been alive long enough to grasp the full size of mine either!! Bet you didn't see that coming.
BUT!!! (doncha hate those? Or "however"! I know, right? So pompous, huh?).. But... I do have a better IDEA of how much bigger my reservoir is!
Wouldn't it be awkward if I then went-off saying "yea, I got 15 more years of grasping my size than you have grasping your size!!! Neener.. neener!" You'd be like... reporting my ass to GAG, co-coordinating your hacking peeps in a multi tiered cyber attack to get my ID's... and... maybe even... be honest! Maybe even let out a tiny giggle about the "grasping your size" thing? No? Still pissed at me? "I don't blame you! After all, my reservoir is bigger! I'd be jealous too. Or is "envy" more appropriate? You know? Cause of the size thing? Then again, I'm much closer to the grave, than you. Gads, I'm a phreaking Geezer! BUT (did I ask you if you hate those) . But, I still Rock to Muse, Coldplay and...* wait a minute...
... what loneliness?
Did you forget about it for just a second?
I took a risk of alienating you. Of course it wasn't my intent. Remember the "risk" thing? I have the impression you're good-natured enough to "get" my attempts to illicit a smile from you. Sincerely, it will make my day if I know I succeeded!
Dammit! I'm running out of letters. Honey, may I continue this soon? Betcha I can get ya' rollin' on the floor! Not like that! Just being some company.0
Most Helpful Girl
I actually have a lot of friends who are 30 and have no idea what they want to do and where they will me! They're valid completely but I do think you should stop worrying, because sometimes all these rushed marriages and babies are a bad thing and you should be wanting to be certain ya know right? x0