So her family is rich. Mine not so. I learned to save every dollar. She has a good job and do i. We're both 24 and i plan on asking her to marry me in 4 weeks. She told me she wanted a big beautiful wedding. I'am no wedding person but i think they do cost a lot of money. She likes to spend her money on fregrences and cloths and going to eat out with her friends. I dont want to stop her from doing this but she needs to cut down on it. How can i say it in a nice way? Last night i told her to stop wasting her money cause she buys dumb things and then she is like "i can do what i want".
I want the engagment as a surprise cause if i tell her i'am saving for our wedding already she will know and i want to surprise her
*Also she might sound like a rich snop but she is not, just now that she has a good job she is starting to spend*
Most Helpful Girl
Well you can start off by saying, once you two are married, you both have to take responsibility for yourselves, you can't rely on your parents money (hers) and you don't want to limit her however she does need to cut down because it'll be both of your guys' bank accounts involve and you want to take care of her but you can't keep up. You have to both be financially responsible, what is spent weekly, could be saved and spent on a future mortgage. Just get her to see that you're not trying to take control of her but it makes you uncomfortable not knowing where you will be financially in the future.0
Most Helpful Guy
Typically the *bride's* parents pay for the wedding? Get some clarification on this. If her daddy is paying for the to-do, then worry not. Of course, you could argue that the extravagance is silly and why not spend on a honeymoon--or a car or a house downpayment--instead, but find out...0