I've been with him for 5 years. for 3 years we have lived together. I love him and he loves me.
I hate to say this but we really are an almost perfect couple. He's seen the worst parts of me and he still loves me. In fact I think everything we have been through has really made us more in love. I didn't think that was possible.
Are past the honeymoon stage? I'm afraid to talk about marriage because maybe I'm being rash... What if my longing to marry him is just me being childish and idealistic?
My parents hate each other. I dont think they ever loved each other (not while I've been alive, anyways) but... they got married? I imagine they loved each other once but... I just don't want to be like them. And my boyfriend is NOTHING like my father so I feel pretty confident that I'll never have to worry about the dangers my mother has faced. But I've never met a married couple where the man wasn't absuive at least sometimes... but my boyfriend has never ever abused me. I've never felt unsafe with him, even when we have argued in the past. Could that change? Do men just wake up one morning and become abusive out of the blue or is this something you could know?
For over a year now I've had this on my mind and suddenly I'm itching to just TELL him. But is this too soon? I don't know. What do you think?
Most Helpful Guy
i think he is good. its not joke that a relationship lives from 5 years.1
Most Helpful Girl
If you've been together 5 years, I would imagine you're very much past the honeymoon stage. By the way you're saying about him, I highly doubt he'll be abusive towards you. Not if during the 5 years you've been together and 3 years you've lived together you've never had a single red flag. if you want to bring up your concerns about marriage then I would say go for it, you've been happily together long enough that marriage is most likely in your future. and if he's been through your worst and still loves you I doubt any of this will change his mind!1