so I'm engaged to be married and one day I happen to run into my ex's MySpace while commenting on one of my guy friend's pages. At first I had a negative vibe because we had a bad break up, but since I wanted to finally make peace with that time and the scars it has left on me with trust issues, I decided to add him as a friend and in the friend message box I wrote a very bland "hey, saw you on a friend's MySpace, been forever"
he added me the next day and wrote back that same day
Even tho it ticked me off he began to remind me of the past but I accepted it. I began to think he was angry at me or something...or thought I was trying to show off my new life to him...tell me what you think...all I want is peace. He knows my fiancee. They used to work together. maybe I'm reading this all wrong?
Here are the messages we sent:
Him:It has been a long time! Congratulations...all the way around! Just wanted to ask you for forgiveness. I had a lot going on and if I hurt you, I am extremely sorry. That was never my intention. Looks like you are doing great! Take care
Me:thanks, congrats to you as well!
glad to see you are doing good.looks like you went to Iraq. my turn is coming up in a yr.and likewise on the forgiveness thing...that was an emotionally stressed time, but a very very long time ago. silly thing we didn't stay friends...but better late than never to catch up,keep in touch
him:Yeah I thought you got out? What did you get promoted?
me:lol, I did get out and began working for a company _ in _ right after. I also got into the _ service and then did their version of _ training program. I still work for the civilian company and do a lot for the training program which is BS.Im not promoted yet. I passed _ training which gives me automatic promotion status and I will be promoted when I finish _. so what else is new, hehe... still in?
HIM:No, I got out in October of last year, realized I didn't want to spend the rest of my time in the desert! I have a great career and a great woman and looking forward to being married! Got back into my faith after an UGLY divorce from my first wife. That is a long long long conversation if you are ever courious, lol! Long story short, God answered several prayers all at once and has been ever since! Sounds like your on top of it! Good job, say hi to your fiancee _ for me!
Me:awww, glad to hear all is going great for you! Congrats on your getting married! Fine looking girl too!
And keeping the faith is always good. Everyone needs it. I know I needed a lot of it when I was going through training. Very intense!
As for the divorce thing, wow! kind of hard to picture...you?
hope things are better on that end. in a ways everyone goes through tough times to get to something better. prob was the best thing for you in the end...
I will tell hi to _ from you. We are soon to get married as well. A long story as well, haha
...he never replied. think he got mad?
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First of all, the correspondence seems quite fine and friendly. There is no reason for him to get mad.
Dont try to guess why he has not replied. In fact, it is difficult enough knowing why we react to different things the way we do ourselves, leave alone trying to understand some one else. It will only drive you insane.
Just react to how the other person responds. If he gets back to you in a friendly way be friendly. If he acts nasty, cut off communication. If he does not reply, don't write back again.2