My family thinks the way my fiance and I are handling our relationship is immature and irrational. I've wanted to be married for awhile now and so has my fiance. We are in our mid twenties. We are madly in love and he is my first serious relationship. He proposed to me a little less than 4 months of knowing each other and we are getting married on our 9 month anniversary. We are so in love and wanted to get married sooner but agreed to wait. We met on an online dating site and were a 100% match. I believe that's a really good sign and helps guarantee us. I don't understand why people think marriage is hard. I honestly don't think my fiance and I will have any issues. We haven't fought once and we love everything about each other. Why isn't my family supportive about this?
Most Helpful Guy
Mind telling us how old you are? Either way I think not only you two are immature and irrational but I also think you are dumb. I mean you have only know each other for 9 months, how well can you really know someone in that amount of time. Also the fact that you haven't fought once and thinking about getting married is insane. Best of luck to you on getting married and I hope it works out for you. But my guess is that you two will be divorced within the first 2 year.1
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Most Helpful Girl
Oooh boy! IF YOU DIDN'T WANT SOMEONE'S OPINION, WHY DID YOU ASK FOR IT? For fucks sake, you keep dismissing everyone else's opinion & advice. You make yourself look like a naive little girl. If you want to pretend you're all grown up, pretend nothing is perfect! You can love him all you want, but he's not pooping gold nuggets! You haven't even had an argument? So you have no idea what he'll be like when you DO argue, because you WILL argue. It's highly recommended for couples to decide on permanent decisions at LEAST 3 years into relationships. It gives you time to "settle in", find out how you are after the sparks have smoked out & you're waking up with matted hair, smelly breath & grumpy faces.
Take a deep breath. Rationalize your thoughts. Get off your high horse. Not getting married doesn't mean you hate each other. He's your FIRST "serious" relationship. So learn this- it takes more than just love to hold a home together. Rethink this whole thing. If you're madly in love, the love will still be there in years' time. With some glue & stitches to hold it together after a few adjustments have come & gone. Discuss your futures you want. EVERYTHING. Kids, kid's names, house location/s, education, jobs, death wishes, everything you can think of. Politics, how dedicated you are to things, etc.. Religion & dating sights can't guarantee anything. Don't be a little girl in big girl pants, because they won't fit. If you didn't need to hear what anyone else said, you wouldn't be here. There's a reason for some advice- for you to take it.0