I'm really losing my faith in the whole idea of marriage and I can't see any positives for the man. In fact, all I see are huge negatives and risks involved. I'm just wondering what the positives for him would be.
Most Helpful Girl
I get the concern, I've often been worried about the consequences myself. I tend to commit rarely, which makes walking away when things go sour a lot easier. The idea of combining my home, money, assets and having children with a man who could abandon me, abuse me, or cheat on me is very scary.
I can't speak for all women as I'm not them, and I know that some women take men for granted in a marriage (just as men do the same in reverse). All I can do is speak for myself and say that the benefits to marrying me are:
You will know I am fully committed to you as I'm not a serial monogamist with wedding-fever
You will have a level of security of having me by your side forever that you will not/shouldn't have if we're just dating (I will not stay forever if we're not married)
I will have children with you
I'll buy a house and share all my assets with you
You will have a level of trust and respect from me that no other person has
I will work harder at this relationship and fulfilling your needs than any other relationship
If our marriage were to fail, I'm not the type to screw someone over in a divorce. My mom and dad went through a divorce (actually a disillusionment b/c there was no fighting) and I saw the right way to carry one out of it comes to that. I'd only expect fairness based on abuse/cheating/whether I was a stay-at-home mom, etc. I have my own money and assets coming into a marriage, I don't need to steal yours.0