- If you love someone truly you will never lust othersVote A
- You may love truly someone but still lust others and eventually cheat or force yourself not to cheatVote B
- You may love someone truly also lust others more than your beloved oneVote C
- If you love someone truly you may find others physically pleasing but you won't lust thenVote D
Most Helpful Guy
I don't know. But after one girl I almost married when I was 17, I've never loved another woman. But I have wanted to have sex with a lot.
People don't understand what love is. Females use this sort of reasoning, because it's the kind of reasoning they have--for awhile, at least, until the oxytocin stops flowing. Speaking generally.
To most women. Sex is love. You cannot separate the two. If you have sex with someone, it is because you love them. That is the reason for sex. It is an extension of love. Note: generally, again, if I must.
To males, it is a way to express love. But, more than that, it is a physical drive. It's basically like feeling like you have to pee. It is a physical compulsion that has to be resisted.
So, a woman will think if a man wants to have sex with another woman "Omg, you love her!" They don't directly think that, but they directly think "If he's attracted to other women, then he must not love me!" That is a common thought among females. It is not absolute, but it is common.
No matter how hard it is for you to understand. Men can love one woman while wanting to fuck millions of others. That is exactly why they try to not fuck others. Because they love you.
The difference lies in our reproductive methods. Eggs are rare. Females only have one egg in a 9 month period. That means they must choose their mates wisely, lest they lost 9 months of potential reproductive time with a better mate. Men have an infinite supply of reproductive material. They are being at their most biologically efficient when they're having sex with as many females as possible.
Yes. We have ways to prevent pregnancy. Our 20,000 year old instincts aren't aware of this.
To balance the idea of "omg males are pigs", we'll also add in that a man would date an attractive woman who was in poverty. A typical woman would scorn at the idea of dating below her class and value. We're all animals. Let's not get stuck in the "Males are pigs!" or "Women are gold diggers!" K?
As I said. I'm speaking generally. There are exceptions, a lot, because humans are capable of thought and belief and social indoctrination.
I'm saying your reasoning here is exactly the same kind of reasoning as those horny males who message you and ask you if you want to suck their cock or show them your tits. They mistake your nature. You mistake ours.
In the end, a man who loves a woman resists those temptations, *because* he loves you. You ask me, that's a sacrifice which shows he cares.3
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Most Helpful Girl
I'm at a crossroads atm where I have met this extremely good and great guy and I'm having to fight this temptation with him. I'm not going to lie its so hard!!! As much as I love my husband I'm finding it so hard to stay focused and I'm just so curious to see what sex will be with this other guy. Grrr.. One of life's many challenges.. Lust!!0
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