Ok so basically me and my boyfriend have been together for 1 and half years. At the start he introduced me to his best mate (female) and we spent time with her and her family. As I now have a job where he lives I practically live with him for work but it means I don't see my parents like I used too. So when he sees his friend I take it as an opportunity to see my parents or one of my friends. His mate is getting married and hasn't invited me, apparently due to the budget. I was so upset, more about the fact that he was planning on going without me and didn't even question it. He spoke to her about it and said he'd pay for me but she said no she's not invited, it's nothing personal, I only want family there. Fair enough it's her day therefore her choice but that's obviously not because of the budget and now seems very personal to me. My boyfriend is upset, I asked him before he even asked her not to attend without me cause we're a couple and therefore should be invited together. Now, I feel sorry for my boyfriend but am resenting her, if she knows how much it means to him to have me there then surely it shouldn't be that much of an issue. I'm only one extra person. I really didn't think it'd be an issue. Now I've got time on my side but I'm so torn now? Argh!!
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shitty position for the boyfriend.
the course of action i'd like to see in this romantic comedy is him standing up for you. if she doesn't treat him like a friend allowing you two to roll as one, then she doesn't deserve your boyfriend as a friend at her wedding.1
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I mean, if you two would have only been dating for a couple of months before the wedding invitation, I could somehow understand that you weren't initially invited.
But after 1.5 years, it is obviously a serious relationship and as far as my view of things goes, means you are treated as "+1" always.
Yes, it is her wedding, but it really is very rude to not invite you along and even refusing to have you there after he offered to pay. It does sound personal.
My boyfriend has been invited to a shitload of weddings this past year, sometimes by friends of his who I haven't even met yet, or met just once. But still, he was invited +1 of course. It is the correct thing to do, if you know your buddy is in a commited relationship.
I feel so sorry for your boyfriend, he wants to be at this wedding but doesn't want you to feel sad about it. On the other hand, I don't think it would be fair for you to tell him not to go without you. Let him go if he wants to. I mean, at this point, if I where you, I wouldn't even go if I was invited. fuck her you know?
It is his decision if this issue will destroy his friendshit with her or not. Not your business hun'. Just don't let this get in the way of your relationship with him. Support his decision and respect his wishes too.
He could also set a statement at the wedding, if he only shows up at the reception or at the party for a short time and not stay for the whole bang.1