I have a female bff from college and we hung out with her a lot. I was away from her for 2 years post graduation (grad school and travelling). after finishing, I found out that she got married. Her husband is a rich man who's nice, and lets her hang with her FEMALE friends. but, he got mad when he learned about me. Her exes were nice and willing to let us hang out. My exes were too, but he won't let us hang out. I am single, but have no feelings towards my bff. what do I do?
we breifly dated and had sex in college
Most Helpful Girl
There's nothing that you can do.
It's up to her at this point because hanging out with you would be jeopardizing her marriage.
If her husband isn't okay with her having male company, and she chooses to disrespect his wishes and do it anyway, it will lead her down a path of destruction in her relationship.
If you care for her as a friend, you should understand this and wish her the best.
I feel like people should be in relationships and be able to hang out with their friends , no matter what gender.
But if this is the rules in her relationship, you have to respect them, so should she.
If this isn't okay with her, I'd expect her to at least discuss things with her husband. Since she hasn't, this shows where she stands on the whole ordeal. She's allowing her husband to take control of who she has in her life.1
Most Helpful Guy
Well, there is nothing much you can do here, she has to learn to stand up to her husband and tell him she has a right to live her life and to have friends if she wanted to and that he shouldn't try to control her this way, however if she is not doing that then it means she actually has more respect for her husband's wishes rather than her own wishes even if her husband's wishes are unfair to her.
Hence she has to stand up to him , there is nothing you can do. All that you can do is, if her husband is uncomfortable with you, then just understand that and step aside and let her be happy in her life.0