My boyfriend and I have been together for a while now and we have discussed the idea of getting married. He nor I want to be another statistic by divorcing within a few years so... so how do I know if he's "the One"?
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How long is a while? However long it is I guarantee it isn't long enough.
How do you know he's The One? When one of you is on their deathbed and the other is still by their side. Until then you can't know, you can only believe.
Imagine yourself old. Can you see yourself with him? When he's lost his teeth and needs you to mush up his food and feed him can you see yourself doing this? If you can imagine a future (a real one with lows as well as blissful good times) and he is always beside you then there's a good chance he's the one. Be honest though. It's no good sugar coating the future. Think of the worst that could happen. If you were bankrupt and destitute, if there was a bereavement, if one of you had a life changing accident. Still think you'd make it through together?
What if he got a really good job. He was working long hours with a gorgeous secretary? What if you get fat when you're stuck at home raising the kids and he's living the high life in the city? When your worlds don't mesh as well and head in different directions?
Being able to say confidently that you're both strong enough to get through things like this together is a very good sign.
Also beware of the too perfect future. If you can only see sunshine and roses you're not ready for the big step.
Most importantly do you make each other happy? Even when his farts stink? Even when you nag him? Do you love him even as you acknowledge his faults and the bits that annoy you and love him despite these and because of them?0