- Unrealistic idealVote A
- Should be the general idealVote B
- No point in marriageVote C
Most Helpful Guy
I dont think its worth it. Marriage doesn't garantee anything. It doesn't garantee happiness, loyalty, longevity, or even frequent sex. It only garantees some tax benifits and provides the lower earner with options to clean out the higher earner.
Also there's not really anything thats intimate or exclusive between husband and wife anymore. Most people send nudes to strangers, sleep with people they barely know and experiment all of their fantasies with their casual flings.
I honestly dont think its a complement to be the guy a woman wants to marry. you're not the guy she's the most attracted to or excited to be with nor are you the guy she wants to experiment her sexuality with or have her most fun and exciting memories with. Chances are she did all that stuff with casual flings. The husband is merely the safe option after theyve had all her fun, the guy they marry out of convience convenient now that theyre ready for responsibilities and sacrifices (buying a house and raising kids).
The only way marriage is worth it is if you have a good marriage, one where you both feel lucky to be with each other and are both loyal, genuinley happy and emotionally/sexually fulfilled by eachither.
However thats rarely the case in my opinion. Many marriages end in divirce where the higher earner (usually the guy) loses the most. Even if a marriage doesn't end in divorce that doesn't mean its succesful. They are often miserable sexless marriages where they merely tolerate eachother and or cheat behind their spouses back.2
Most Helpful Girl
Both of my friends have recently gotten married at age 21.
Honestly in different cultures the idea of marriage is weighed heavily upon.
For example in middle eastern/ south Asian cultures marriages are made to seem obligatory; if you haven't gotten married your life is not "complete yet."
Usually the reason people get married is for security reasons, compatibility, families arranging, business deals, green cards, etc.
Funny to mention that in the West its almost looked down upon now to get married at such a young age. Have "fun," fuck as many people as you want, and when you are old and boring settle down.
When in culture in the East is, get married and start working hard and building up your life at am earlier age.
Marriages that are based on love are tend fantasized about and many people dream about (like me lol) but it takes a lot of dedication and time to even think about committing to someone whole heartily and completely.
Most people today do not want to be committed.
Marriage culture will bend many generations from now like how it has been generations before. It's something that can't always be seen as stable.
One thing I know though.
Men do like their sandwiches.1