I have a feeling my boyfriend is going to propose within this upcoming year based on how he's been acting. Recently, he brought up the topic of engagement rings and asked me what I think of diamond rings and what I would consider the "ideal size" of the diamond. I tried telling him I really rather not waste money on a ring and instead get a nice wooden ring or something without a large-ass rock on it. When I said this, he got upset and tried convincing me that diamond rings are most appropriate for engagements... How do I go about convincing him otherwise? I dont want to insult him later by exchanging the ring if he does propose.
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I like you already. My wedding band was less than a hundred bucks. It's simple and durable, like me.
This is the kind of situation where you should tread lightly, though, for fear of trampling on emotions you haven't the faintest idea of.
I mean, if he really WANTS to see you with a rock on yr finger, then there are probably all kinds of significance there that you don't even know about.
At the very least, there's probably a deep sense of accomplishment, commitment, and investment that he feels, that would be symbolized by that kind of ring (for him -- mb not for you).
Also, it's VERY possible that he's just turned on beyond all words at the thought of a big ring on yr finger. Yes, seriously -- this is a very big sexual thing, for lots of men, and I'd bet good money that it will be for yours, too... even if he's not aware of that yet. (If he buys you that kind of ring, and yr in the process of seducing him and you put the middle two fingers of THAT hand in yr mouth... ohh girl, the fireworks. Just try it.)
I mean, I'm with you all the way on the plain simple ring thing, but, like everything else is a marriage, this is a matter of compromise. Mb you could wear a simpler ring most of the time, but a more elaborate one when yr out with him (or … in with him ::wink::).
I mean, I’m assuming you are not SO fundamentally opposed to the idea that it actually disgusts you on some fundamental level. If that’s the case, then this is a … much more delicate conversation, and, frankly, it’s probably beyond my element to advise you on.
But, as long as that’s not the case, you can probably just compromise. Inexpensive, utilitarian ring for everyday wear, and more elaborate ring for special occasions. (Where “special occasions” includes bedroom events and outside-world events.)
I mean, that’s what MOST women I know with super-expensive wedding rings actually do, anyway. If a ring is worth five-figure prices, it’s not like its owner is gna be wearing it around literally every day to do random mundane tasks.1