sometimes i think about the whole marriage and kids concept, and i just dont really want it. maybe marriage, but not kids (i dont hate kids, i have a lot of little cousins i love taking care of but i do nott want my own. i dont want to go to pregnancy and i do not want to support a kid for the rest of my life no thank you). to me it seems logical and i feel like my reasons are good (there are way more reasons but im not going to go into that), but whenever i tell people my opinions and decisions, they think its because i just "havent found the one yet" and that everything will change ones i do.
but will it really?
will i really want to carry a baby in my stomach for 9 months and then take care of it forever just because of "the one". that does not sound like me. marriage is one of those topics that is said to be "magical" and that the feeling is unexplainable and blah blah blah. but the way its described sounds an awful lot like your first kiss, and your first time having sex. which for me were neither magical or unexplainable. i mean they were good and all but im just not a romantic person so things like that dont amaze me. at all. so i feel like i would not experience this "amazingness" that people seem to always talk about when trying to convince me to change my mind
what are your opinions?
Most Helpful Guy
It’s nothing magical. Once the honeymoon is over there's bills to pay, toilets to clean, clothes to wash and jobs to go to. It’s figuring out how your going to pay $800 for a car repair and pay your rent, not to mention how your supposed to get to work until your car is fixed. In other words it’s real life and it’s not a fairy tale. It can fall apart real fast if you don’t have a solid foundation that your marriage is built on.
I tell everyone to focus on yourself first. Go to college, get a degree, get started in a career, get some money put in the bank and get a place of your own to live. Once you’ve established yourself in a career and are financially stable then I would say be open to meeting someone, preferably someone that also has stability in the life. At this point whomever you may meet you will choose to be with them because you want them in your life and not because you need them to help you pay bills and make ends meet. You gotta a whole lot ahead of you. It’s not something you want to worry about being only eighteen. It’s a HUGE repsonsiibility.2
Most Helpful Girl
For myself and my boyfriend this is true. My boyfriend wanted neither marriage or kids. Well he wanted marriage but not for a really long while. After being with me his whole perspective on both changed. So for some people it can change after you find someone that you really feel like is the one for you. It's corny but it's like looking forward to doing life with your best friend. Drives you crazy but keeps you happy and you never want to be without that craziness. And for some , marriage and kids can become more romanticized. Not all but some.1