My husband is a personal trainer. I was going through his phone the other day and I noticed that he's been talking to this younger woman (judging by her photo) on an app for months. She is a client of his at the gym. They text EVERY day without doubt. He has stopped training her, continuing to engage with her and even offered to train her for free and said he would "do anything for her" Often very flirty or general chit chat. He occasionally texts her good morning even "good morning sunshine" and other incredibly unprofessional lines (never sexual) just flirting and too nice. There was a text I found that was asking her out for lunch and she agreed but said "I don't want to have deal with your wife"
It just goes on and on and I would hate to bore you. I am shocked.
Most Helpful Guy
It does sound like he is taking the first steps towards cheating. Please don't be mad, but everyone seems to blame him first. I like to be a bit more neutral. If your marriage was perfect and he was totally satisfied with you, then why do you think he would be seeking attention behind your back? I am not saying you are doing anything wrong but your husband is finding this other woman more interesting or at least very tempting. Before you start pointing fingers at him and blaming him I think you need to look at your marriage and see how everything is going. Maybe you two haven't been spending much time together, maybe finances or kids are getting in the way of your own romance. Whatever it is, your husband is obviously not into you or your marriage 100%. For sure he shouldn't be seeking attention elsewhere, but maybe he is because it is lacking at home.0
Most Helpful Girl
first and foremost before thinking of confronting him get evidence, because he may likely deny it and slam you for going through his phone.
now decide do you love him and want to continue your marriage or are you done with him, if you have no children together it is easier to end it
depending on how he is, it either takes your sadness or anger to get a point across. you guys are either not connecting anymore or lacking some interaction. but you also have to be patient, he has actually not committed the cheating act yet, the texting is just stage 1, you may angry and think he doesn't deserve this but be as good to him as possible, if you know there are things you did you didn't apologies for, or deprived him off stop, give him nice welcomes when he comes home from work.
also he would try to be more independent, like picking up after himself, organising his things etc do not let him. don't let him know you know just yet be good to him and see if the relationship between them progresses, if it doesn't progress then he has a heart and realises what he is about to lose, if it does then sorry at least you have all the evidence so confront him, get a lawyer and be done with it as a bonus throw the ring at the mistress. I really hope is doesn't come to divorce and I hope you can work it out but personally... he is shit. good luck all the best ❤❤❤0