I am American woman, married a Jamaican man in Feb. 2010 after 9 months of long distance dating. Because of the long distance , we both new the importance of communicating frequently on a day to day basis. I traveled to see him every 2-3 months and never ever had in bad vibes of unworthiness about him. Had a big wedding that cause some financial strain on both our parts and lessen the frequent calling but still talked a couple times a day. We and both our family contribute to make a beautiful wedding come true. I am not the stereotypical american women who spends all her money on a Jamaican man. He worked hard as well. Now here's the kicker, the day after wedding his baby mother said to friends that they were still having sex and she still loved him and didn't know he was getting married which is a lie , this is a very small town so the wedding was a very known public fact. She has a history of doing some crazy things and doesn't even have custody of their child. so soon after I returned to the states the phone calls lessen and I feel like the interest is not there anymore. he said its because he's in a different line of work that keeps him busy and that he is not foreign minded and married me because he loves me. However our conversation is like a broken record, "how are you" what are you doing" " you alright" Sometimes I wonder if his new line of work keeps him busy to the middle of the night. I have no proof but he tells me very little what's going on, mostly because he's exhausted. he does however answer my call every time but because of the sudden changes in behavior he might not be keeping things real. We use to miss each other terribly and I can't tell you the last time he told me that. in the past if we argued and I hung up on him he would call me back 550 times now lucky to get a call back within 2 hours. I think someone else is holding his interest, but he said he just working a lot so that I comfortable when I come to visit him. I will be there next month and not sure if I want to go lately we both have been saying some disrespectful things that he would have never said pre-marriage. my biggest thing is he say he he is going to call and then doesn't so basically a lie. I feel like if I am on your mind then he will call I can't make him do anything he doesn't want to do from his heart. if he is not calling he is not thinking about me I am only asking for a 30 second call not a long drawn out call. he did call me for 24 hrs yesterday and he knows how I feel about calling. I called him today and he said his screen broke on his phone. but his mother has my number and calls me often so I feel like there is no more excuses. feeling like this is a marriage for green card. should I cut m losses now while its still very early in the game
Is my JAMAICAN HUSBAND cheating on me after being married less than 30 days?
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