So my boyfriend last night asked me if i'd marry him, he's muslim and i'm christian. So I was thinking how can a couple marry if they're different religions? I didn't know what to say even though I knew I wanted to marry him it was just the question above that bothered me. HELP? I know muslim men can marry christian and jewish women as long as they're believers of the book, but how can we MARRY? Please help?
Most Helpful Guy
dude i live with muslims in a place with muslim majority and iam christain , usually if a muslim marries a christian girl or vice versa it happens by force and leads to fights between the families, shootings and burning houses... etc
He might seem like a cool guy now and some are but when you actually do it and things become serious you will not like the results you will be pressured to convert even if they never force you, you're 20 and he's probably around your age, still naive and lovey dovey both of you have no idea whats going on you just know its "love " yeah i've seen it happen before it turns out to be a huge mistake, westerners can never get used to that kind of life they have their own rules and traditions that you will get sick of after a while.
My point is : you're both naive and you're not thinking with your brain , and you will probably regret it in the long run, it happened, happens and will keep happening.0
Most Helpful Girl
This is a major misconception about Islam. A Muslim man is not allowed to marry just any Christian or Jewish women. The man must be a devout Muslim himself and his end goal is to help his Christian or Jewish wife become Muslim though he cannot force her. The woman must be chaste and willing to look for guidance herself and cannot teach his children Christian beliefs either. His children must be Muslim. Even though Islam allows these types of Christians and Jews to marry Muslim men it is still seen as abhorrent and extremely discouraged because of how it might turn out in the future for the both of them. There's too many differences in the religion which can affect compatibility, your families and your children in the future. There really is no compulsion in the religion.
Before asking random people on here this question please check this link https://islamqa.info/en/20227 I suggest you search up other related questions about that on there. But from the question it looks like you both don't seem to be practicing (no offense) because a Muslim man is not allowed to have a girlfriend or sexual relations outside of marriage at all. You also seem very young to take a huge step like that.
Before making a huge decision like that do your research about it. The honeymoon phase will pass but once reality starts it may not end well.
Source: I've seen how these marriages have turned out very rare it was successful.0