I am 27 years old and so is my wife. After marrying her, she started to reveal her true self. She started to say rude things to me, hit me if I spoke to another female, and became overprotective of our 3 year old son. My wife also controls my finances and prevents me from buying things I like and often limits the kinds of toys my son can play with. My wife also stopped having sex with me.
A month ago, I met a 22 year old at a club, while my wife and son were visiting in laws. I kissed her and we had the best sex ever. I vowed to stop seeing her, but, admit that I still love her and want to be with her. The 22 year old also treats me and my son better. But, I fear the high price of divorce and/or hurting my son due to divorce. What do I do now?
Most Helpful Girl
If you aren't happy why stay... plus it's not fair to your wife even though she treats you bad to cheat on her. Leave her try to have some common ground about your son. That's the tricky part who's going to get custody? I'm sure she'll want to fight for him too. If you can prove to the judge if you get a divorce that she's abusive then you'll have more of a chance of having custody. And are you sure you love the 22 yr old and she's not just someone to take your mind off your wife? It's a lot to think about take your time with your decision0
Most Helpful Guy
Most people will say rude things at some point in a relationship. I don't know what you mean by overprotective of your son. I think it's reasonable that she would want to protect her son though. One partner preventing another from making expensive purchases is very common. Money is limited so I can understand a person being concerned about it. She may try to control your finances because of concern of you spending it frivolously. She probably stopped having sex with you because of your issues. That makes sense.
I don't understand the way she hit you. Maybe she smacked your chest with the back of her palm? Or maybe she punched you in the face? Any kind of hitting isn't ideal but she probably did it because she was concerned you may flirt with those girls. Given that you had sex with another women, maybe she could sense something some possible danger signs. I don't know.
You two clearly have some issues. She isn't perfect, but I bet if you talked to her, instead of having an affair, there was a good chance you could have figured out the reasons behind your issues. Maybe you want to move on. I don't think you two can't potentially repair your issues, but you cheating made the situation worse. She may not want to try after that. If you want to try to repair your situation, I'd recommend some therapy and being open with her about what happened and listen to her more.0