I met my wife while studying abroad in Japan and we dated, then got married. She told me that she married me for the opportunity to come to the usa for a green card and for my money. She started to mess around with a few single guys here, and even slept with my brother. What do i do now?
Most Helpful Girl
Come clean be honest and lay it out on the table for her plain and simple.
Let her know your genuine feelings before you found this out, that this is low and isn't repairable. At least not now. I think you should let her know that cheating on you with random single guys is one thing but with your brother is cruel. And neither is acceptable. because she's not the only person who gained something in this relationship and she won't be the only person to lose something. Because your just as important.
I think you should separate yourself from her, first emotionally and then physically. Because you need some time to heal, take a breather and take it easy on yourself being around her may make it easier to blur the truth so it doesn't seem so bad or have a bad blow-out (fight) that will make it worse.
Be strong, concise and direct let her know assertively (not aggressively) looking her straight in the eye, so there is no room for confusion or for her to change her story or you to change yours.
You deserved to be valued by someone who values you and by doing and saying what she has she has shown she is not mature enough, smart enough or deserving enough to be in a relationship with you if you value her as much as it seems you do0
Most Helpful Guy
You served your purpose, move along.2