I've heard many engaged or married people say that they just knew he or she is the one. Did you experience this? How did you know?
Most Helpful Guy
For me the two times it happened was in the bedroom. The first one who made me feel that way got away, the second I married. I'll try to borrow from a previous post I wrote on this subject:
"Bad sex" to me is sex without a connection, like masturbation with a body. It doesn't have to do with mechanics or physical pleasure.
The chemistry isn't there that kind of allows us to meld and read each other's thoughts. I've often tried sticking around because I found the girl attractive, found her personality charming, but it's not something that improves with technique. Sometimes the connection just isn't there in the sexual moments.
Usually when that happens, I'm incapable of really developing intense feelings for the girl (and probably her for me as well), and it's usually time to end the relationship.
I tend to discover my true feelings for a girl and how compatible we are inside the bedroom.
I might just be a certain type, but I actually believe in an idea similar to "sexual soulmates". It's something I experienced twice in my life, and fell for both women where we had this kind of effect. The second I married.
All the women in between just didn't have this intense of a connection there in the bedroom, and it didn't have to do with anything like blowjob technique.
It had to do with how we kind of understood each other's bodies and minds, and I'm not sure that's something that can really be taught. The two women who did that to me just felt like our bodies and minds were made for each other.
The first one, technique-wise, was actually kind of horrible. And she physically wasn't even my type at the time (quite skinny, small breasts, long arms and neck). It came as a surprise to me how passionate things got in the bedroom, and how we could smile and laugh and enjoy the time together so much. Yet it was then that I kind of realized I wanted her in my life more than anything else.
It's not that sex is so important to me, but that connection in the bedroom is kind of the foundation for me to have the strongest feelings of love towards a woman I can possibly have, and often followed by dates and romantic exchanges of affection that can potentially last forever. That, to me, is very important, but it always began for me in the bedroom.
In those rare moments when I feel like this with a woman in the bedroom, what makes her "the one" is the simple feeling that my life seems incomplete without her. There is nothing I want more than her.0
Most Helpful Girl
Well, I'm not engaged or married but I did find "the one" and yeah... I just know.
Our relationship is great and imagining spending the rest of my life with him is really exciting.
It feels so right to be with him. I love him and feel loved. I love everything about us together.0