I'm happily married with a 3 year old son. My wife and I stopped having sex due to work schedules. She even decided to stop sex to avoid scaring our son (and to prevent him from being ok with premarital sex). She even thought certain cartoons like Pokémon would be violent for him to watch. I make sure to keep a check on his TV time. She even thinks that he should not talk to girls or make interracial friends.
At work, I met a beautiful younger woman who started to give me the attention my wife refused to. She also is much more liberal when. It comes to raising children (worked in a day care in College. she laughed out loud when my wife forbade him from watching Pokémon.
We had sex for the first time and have been doing it for a week. She loves me and wants me to leave my wife. If I dont, shell leave my wife. But, I fear a divorce costs and hurting my son.
Most Helpful Girl
Okay dude I will try to hold my self from lashing at you because it will get me nowhere. There is no way to undo what you did.
This is why I think guys your age shouldn't get married.
The worst part is that you don't even sound sorry about cheating.
"I'm happily married" do you even know what that term means?
Do you even love your wife? Why did you even get married? Are you even aware of the value of marriage? Did you just marry your wife for sex?
Here I go lashing out.. Sorry.
But seriously dude, your wife did nothing wrong. She's just being an overprotective mother, and that is admirable. She's willing to sacrifice her pleasure for her own child, in order not to scar him. And what do you do about it? You do even more scarring. Mindlessly going after your pleasure.
Do you even love your wife? Because if you did you wouldn't have found cheating an easy thing to do, not would you so carelessly consider divorce.
I know that all what I am saying is pointless. I doubt it'll move any feelings of guilt in you.
My only advice is that you come clean to your wife about it. Don't wait till she finds out the ugly way. Just tell your wife the truth, so that SHE would be able to file for a divorce.
You don't need to be preasant in your kid's life. Maybe your wife can find herself another man who'll accept her for who she is and be a good father figure to your son.
As for you, you can go lead a happy sex-filled life with your lover.
If you don't like this suggestion, any other alternation would be to truly repent for what you did and ask for forgiveness from God and your wife, and see if she's willing to give you another chance.
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Most Helpful Guy
you've really stepped on dog shit there
look, if that lady you slept with is somebody you really want around you should realize that the condition she is putting itself proves that she wants full commitment from you. Now you said that she'll tell your wife if you don't take her in. Well then don't take her in. Own up, she'll thrash you. she'll cry. she'll do drugs. and your son will see it all. but you have to get down to her feet, you have to talk to her and you will have to let her hit you. but if you really love her, then I'm hoping you'll be sentimental enough for her to see. I don't know what to say any more than this, if she does agree to stay, well then that's good, but if she doesn't then I really can't say more. I've spoken for your son here, for his wellbeing. just be honest, that's the least you could do. Also, you could ask that new lover of yours, that if she loves you enough, she should let you live in peace and that she wouldn't tell your wife. ask her that, because if she really loved you, she'd understand. and please don't go around shooting anybody or yourself.0