My wife cheated on me with my two best friends. I found out this morning when they admitted to sleeping with her, and showed me the pictures theye took of her naked. When I confronted my wife she suddenly became angry and shouted "because you're crappy in bed ok? so fucking deal with it!!!" I was repeatedly sexually abused when I was 8 years old, and I find sex too hard deal with. The whole thing is too emotional for me, and she knows this. I love her so should I forgive her?
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Most Helpful Girl
No, you should not leave her. Why experience a child hood of sexual abuse only to journey through adulthood experiencing emotional abuse by the woman who vowed to take good care of your heart? Good wives do not puncture the dignity, pride, self-esteem, and self-love of their husbands. When there's a problem in the bedroom, they use their words like adults and address it with TACTFUL, DELICATE, sincere honesty. They don't seek to solve their issues with another man's dick. Let alone the dick of a man their husband thought was his friend.
You've still got so much life to live. There's an unimaginable excess of joy, harmony, peace, and euphoria in this life but you cannot touch it if you keep disloyal, untrustworthy, sneaky backstabbers like her and your former friend around. Leave her, let him have his disloyal, deceptive whore, cut him off, and never speak to either of them again. Also, get involved in intensive therapy so that you can address your childhood pain properly and experience a relationship in the future where it doesn't restrict you.2
Most Helpful Guy
Honestly speaking, you shouldn't be even asking this question. My question is " Why must you forgive your wife"? why must you even think of forgiving your wife?
Honestly your wife doesn't deserve forgiveness, what she did is not a mistake, it was her choice, her decision to do so and she did it purposely to hurt you or whatever other reasons she may have had, it was on purpose and this act of her's doesn't deserve forgiveness.
Hence you should never forgive her. Of course you should leave and you should remove her out of your life forever, what she did it indicates that she is very selfish and can go to any extent to make you feel bad or to hurt you.
I would suggest you divorce her right away. You don't deserve to be with a partner who is highly disrespectful and cheap. You really don't need someone like that in your life.
Hence you don't have to forgive her, forgiveness is a choice and it's up to you if you want to forgive her or not, but irrespective to that you should divorce her immediately.
That will be my suggestion1