It's one thing that really confuses and to be honest kind of annoys me. I feel like a lot of people get engaged without really thinking about what that means, like they don't really take it seriously.
I've met several people who've been engaged before but broke up without ever planning a wedding.
I am not even talking about people who planned or started planning a wedding but broke up before it happened - those people I think got engaged with the intent to marry but something changed or they got scared. I'm talking about people who get engaged but don't really seem like they actually intend to go through with it.
There's a couple I know that's been engaged for over a year and a half and haven't even set a date. Furthermore, the female half has decided on a whim to up and move to a city a 12 hour drive away for a two year work contract (which she didn't need to do, she had/has a stable job here and just wanted to go because she's bored). Both my boyfriend and I are like 95% sure they're never actually going to get married. So why bother with the engagement?
Do you think a lot of people get engaged just because they want to use the word fiancée instead of bf/gf but don't actually want to get married?
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Theyre just very busy0
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If they're in the USA and their incomes are anywhere close to each other, they may just be exercising basic financial sense.
Here, couples with comparable incomes tend to pay a "marriage penalty" -- as much as several thousand additional dollars in taxes.
Worse, if one of them is a company employee but takes substantial personal business deductions, it's possible that they could get hit for *another* couple thousand. (Employee tax deductions get reduced by 2% of the TOTAL income reported on the tax return. So, after marriage, that means they have to subtract 2% of BOTH of their income from those deductions, rather than just subtracting 2% of one earner's income.)
It's possible that other financial instruments (or other things with equivalent value) could even this out if they married -- stuff like differently structured tax deductions/exemptions, shared health and dental insurance, lower homeowner's and auto insurance, better credit ratings, etc.
Most significantly, if one spouse makes significantly more than the other, married couples get tax *benefits*.
But yeahhh... if they're here in the States, they could just be doing it to keep a few extra grand in their pockets each year.
I don't know much about the Canadian tax system, but, I just looked at the first Google hit I found.
From that single hit, it seems like your country just penalizes married couples who make lots of money together, rather than penalizing a particular ratio of incomes:
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