First of all, SHE IS NOT CHEATING.
I am a White guy dating an Indian girl. We have both dated Indian and non-Indian people in the past. But, we decided that we should get married. My family, and my friends (Indian and non-Indian) are supportive of it. Her friends are supportive, but her family is very angry now. They are trying to set her up with a traditional man from India. She is not opposed to dating Indian men (some of her exes are Indian), but feels that she would be incompatible with him. But, her parents object to her dating me and even started to force her to move back in with them (we live separately but spend a lot of time together after work). Marrying him would mean losing me, her career, and a lot of free time after work.
What can I do? I would talk to them myself, but she told me her father has a pistol, and I am scared.
Most Helpful Girl
With having Married a Muslim Man at one time when I went to Egypt, his own family was fine with it. He didn't want any Muslim girl, and even if they didn't like It... he stuck to his own guns and it was his Way or the Highway. I am a Christian, by the way, and didn't have to change my Religion, nor would I ever. I stood my ground right from the start.
Your girl has to make a Decision that is Something that she must Understand is going to, one way or another, Change her whole Life of Strife, at the moment. She cannot have it both ways.
She has to either choose You as her spouse, Hopefully Having her Strict Cultured family accept you one day, or give you up and Forever allow her family to Control her like a Puppet and Maybe seeing her Miserable every day with some other guy they Picked for her.
I see she has a lot to lose here, dear, but the Question is: How much does she love them and her Culture and Religion? How much does she Love You and all of the Above?
Might I suggest you put a Bug in her ear and tell her, if she Stands for this on their own end, she will always be Stooping to every other thing they Scoop up for her and Throw her way and she will never be her own Boss... If so, it will Eternally be her Loss.
There isn't much you can say to the other straw Bosses but you can make her see some Common sense on your own End, my Friend. And from where I am sitting, I am Seeing that if you Dangle the Darling carrot over the horsie's nose, sometime he will bite, which I think eventually her family would if it meant that perhaps they might not see their little filly again.
Good luck. xx0
Most Helpful Guy
This seems to be clear case of forced marriage. Well if she is being threatened or forced into marrying someone she doesn't want to then you can help her by taking the help of the law. However by your post it doesn't seem like she is objecting to her parents wish, so in that case there is nothing much you can do.
If she chooses you over them then no matter what she will find ways to be with you.1