My husband of 10 years hasn't been able to hold a steady job the entire time we've been together. He keeps a job temporarily for 3 to 12 months and then he gets fired or laid off. Then he'll be unemployed for 1 to 2 years and it's difficult for him to find a job. We're in a large city so I'm not sure how this is possible. I don't know anyone else who has been unemployed this long.
I always put up with it though, and I always felt bad, just thinking he has bad luck. But now that it's happened again, I'm starting to doubt it's just bad luck.
He's now been unemployed for 4 months. He insists he's job hunting but he hasn't been on a single job interview yet.
I also feel bad because he moved real far, 10 years ago, to be with me. He has nobody in our city. Every time he loses his job he tosses around the idea of just going back home. I can't leave here because I have children and I can't take them away from their father. So I have no choice. If he leaves, our relationship is over.
I'm just fed up but I feel guilty. I don't know what to do or how many more chances he needs. I get child support for my kids, and then my parents also give me some money because I can't support him and I on one income anymore. If he leaves then I can move into a smaller place and I won't need my parent's support anymore.
I also tried talking to him about all this to no avail. He's become lazy and self righteous and thinks he's not doing anything wrong.
Most Helpful Guy
Do you know his work habits and I'll assume he's a tradesman in construction which is the reason why he's always layed off. Is he always late or lazy on the job? The career he made a desicion to get into, is it slow and doesn't have steady work? You should try to come at him in an extremely comforting way to him and talk out his options. After 10 years of not having stable work, it must be hard on him and makes him feel useless.0
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Judging by the last sentence... I'd let him leave. If he's truly lazy and self righteous and sees no issue with his actions, that would be the last straw for me.0