Okay I know how this is going to sound. I have this buddy that’s never hidden the fact that he thinks my wife is hot. Matter of fact it was through him that I met my wife. He was dating my wife's cousin because he hoped it would help him get closer to her; but the way it worked out her cousin introduced us and we hit it off and now we’re married for 5 years. Anyway, 3 weeks ago I was talking to him about how she is having a hard time coming up with money she needs to start a business and during the conversation he jokes that he’d give her the money if she slept with him. It’s not the first time he’s talked about this. It’s kind of out in the open that he wants to sleep with her. Even she knows it. So when he says this I just respond with the usual but he tells me in this tone that he’s not joking. Still I don’t take him seriously; but pretty much every day since he brought up the subject usually just asking me if she has come up with the money she needs and repeating his offer. So I finally mention it to her as a JOKE and she asks me how much is he offering. I think she’s just going along with the joke so I say he’s offering to pay the whole amount she needs. She then asks me is he’s serious so I ask her why it matters if he’s serious. She gives me this look that seems to be saying that she would take him up on his offer if he was serious. So the conversation ends but then the next day she brings up the subject again. She says to me that out of curiosity she wants to know how I would feel if she took him up on his offer. I ask her why does she ask, if she’s seriously considering it and she says no, she’s just curious what I would do if she said she wanted to do it. She was curious how I’d react if I would actually let her do it. I told her I didn’t know and that I didn’t really want to talk about it. Tonight she brings it up again and I get the feeling that she’s actually considering it. So should i just tell her that it’s okay with me if she wants to do it?
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This is from someone who has had several successful MFM threesomes with my wife.
1. Don't do it with a friend. You need to find an acquaintance with whom you can cut off contact should things turn sour.
2. It's really super creepy he's willing to treat your wife as a prostitute and you a pimp.
3. His obsession over her makes he think he wants more than just to stick his dick in her for fun. Remember, he was after her before you met her. Red flag alert!
4. Your wife's willingness to do this without any in depth discussion (unless there was some prior discussions your didn't go into detail about) makes me think she is looking at this the wrong way. This should be about pure pleasure for you two as a couple, not for money or any selfish interests. And it appears there might be some communications issues between the two of you.
I'm not trying to discourage you from engaging in an MFM. I fully support couples whose relationships can handle it (it's kind of rare) to explore adding a third to the bedroom, but it sounds like this being done in the absolutely worst possible way with someone you shouldn't even consider.
There is a list of rules I have for setting up a threesome that leaves a lot of options on the table after you've tried it, and goes a good way towards protecting all involved. If you like, you can PM me to discuss in detail.0
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