Honestly, the ring DOES matter. But not in the way you'd think. She doesn't want a nice ring just to show it off because it's big and pretty. She wants a nice ring because it shows commitment. It shows that you were willing to sacrifice a round of golf or a new video game to scrape and save to buy her something that is the symbol of your lives together. But not only should you be saving for a ring. You need to save a nest egg as well. A kind of "starting our married life" fund/ honeymoon fund.
You should be pumping as much energy and time into this as possible, because it means something. This isn't just a "well, the next step is a ring.I just buy what I can afford today." type decision.
just buy her a cheaper one for now and tell her that you can getget her the nicer one once you have a little more money and hopefully she will accept it and not be like one of them girls that you have to get them the most expensive one or they will break up with you or some stupid thing like that lol
-You can dely the engagement until you have saved up enough money to buy her the engagement ring she wants.
-You can set up a payment plan, some jewellers will let you pay in installments
-You can buy her the best ring you can afford and hope she likes it, after all, if she really loves you and your hinting that marriage may be in your future then she has to accept you for who you are and should be happy with whatever ring you give her.
Tell her you want to wait to get engaged until you can afford to buy her the ring she deserves. If she loves you, she'll help you find a ring that will win the approval of her girlfriends without breaking the bank. Seriously though, sell something that she knows you treasure (your motorcycle, etc.) and buy her something nice. You can use it as a trump card (to win arguments and get your way) for the rest of your lives together.
I really don't think that the ring must be fancy or anything because the simple thing of giving it to her is important.but if that's important to her I guess you should ask for help from some of your friends or family.but still.I think that a nice wedding is better than a fancy ring.
Think about it and if you still think that the ring is more important ask for help or get two jobs or something.
Sorry for not thinking of anything better than this.:(
Have you tried to get a loan or checked out a pawn shop? she doesn't have to know where it came from. You might just find that a big presentation when giving the ring regardless of the fanciness or lack of, might be more what she's wanting. If you love each other money or price shouldn't matter. Just some ideas.
fella, I am happy for ya that you find your love. :) ring is a plus, but she want you more than anything, start with something easy like $500 under and when things are better up grade it. and that is why you can bring her the tiffany setting.
Engagement rings aren't just jewelry. They are a symbol that you can take care of you love financially. You should spend two month's salary on a ring. If you can't do that or can't get a good ring for that, you aren't financially ready for marriage!
Hmmm. . .thinking back and looking at other people's answers. . .How fancy do you mean? Whatever you get her, expect to continue like that like it were worth two months of your salary. If she cares that much, get a better GF. If she doesn't, great!
I see you say on your profile you don't know a lot about love which is obvious because marriage is not about money its about love and commitment!! most women work now a days so they don't need a mans money! if you don't have a lot of money it doesn't mean your not ready for marriage you know "for richer,for poorer"
I disagreed because you can be financially ready, but still shift that money more towards the honeymoon or other things that count more to both of you. Two months salary is probably a guideline created by jewelers or someone who has no money worries, like Martha Stewart. And having expensive jewelry is a good way to get mugged. One actor recently was killed for a watch and a locket.
One option that you could consider would be to purchase an antique style ring at a pawn shop or estate sale. Woman love old jewelery it is usually very unique and it has history behind it. Its romantic and endearing. You can also get more for your dollar. Good luck.
If you can't afford an engagement, can you afford to get married? Rule of thumb for engagement ring budgets are that it should be equal to 3 months worth of wages.
Though the whole concept of engagement rings are antiquated. Engagement rings really only became a thing as an insurance policy to the bride incase the groom ran off or ended the engagement.
You should ask her, or a close friend of hers. Is an engagement ring even important to her?
it souldnt matter on the price, it should matter that you love her enough to marry her. if you can't get that huge dimond $2000 ring, she'll understand. and if she doesnt, she's not the right girl for you.
Get one you can affford tell her once you can afford one you will get one for her she will like the thought that you care and you really wanted to get her a fancy love but she will ove whatever you give her
If she loves you, she won't care that much that her ring isn't huge. Ask her if she'd rather wait until you can save up more money to get her a nicer one, or if shed rather get a smaller one now. More than likely, she'll take the smaller one.
i would save up a little and try to find something really pretty at a good price. Look I want a fatty ring but if I am in love with my guy and he can't afford it's ok. I'm marrying him for him not the ring.
I have always grown up telling my mom that when the person that wants to get married to proposes I want a huge rock.but you know I really don't care, if I really loved him even a sterling silver ring would be fine. =]
Yeah, my girlfriend would like one too, and I want to get her exactly the one she wants, but, I don't even have a job! I'm gonna try my hardest though.
The fact that you even thought about this question should be good enough to prove to her that you love her deeply. Hell, even the fact that you're asking her to marry you is a good indicator.
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Honestly, the ring DOES matter. But not in the way you'd think. She doesn't want a nice ring just to show it off because it's big and pretty. She wants a nice ring because it shows commitment. It shows that you were willing to sacrifice a round of golf or a new video game to scrape and save to buy her something that is the symbol of your lives together. But not only should you be saving for a ring. You need to save a nest egg as well. A kind of "starting our married life" fund/ honeymoon fund.
You should be pumping as much energy and time into this as possible, because it means something. This isn't just a "well, the next step is a ring.I just buy what I can afford today." type decision.
just buy her a cheaper one for now and tell her that you can getget her the nicer one once you have a little more money and hopefully she will accept it and not be like one of them girls that you have to get them the most expensive one or they will break up with you or some stupid thing like that lol
You have a few options:
-You can dely the engagement until you have saved up enough money to buy her the engagement ring she wants.
-You can set up a payment plan, some jewellers will let you pay in installments
-You can buy her the best ring you can afford and hope she likes it, after all, if she really loves you and your hinting that marriage may be in your future then she has to accept you for who you are and should be happy with whatever ring you give her.
Vintage - you'd be amazed at what you can find -
I think Ebay is your best bet - you have the entire world to chose from - and you will find the right one
you should check the local ebay sites here in Europe as well like
.ie - Ireland
.co.uk - England
.fr - France
.it - Italy
.de - Germany
Your going to find 200+ years of choice
Tell her you want to wait to get engaged until you can afford to buy her the ring she deserves. If she loves you, she'll help you find a ring that will win the approval of her girlfriends without breaking the bank. Seriously though, sell something that she knows you treasure (your motorcycle, etc.) and buy her something nice. You can use it as a trump card (to win arguments and get your way) for the rest of your lives together.
LOL--cute, funny and very, very true...lol
I really don't think that the ring must be fancy or anything because the simple thing of giving it to her is important.but if that's important to her I guess you should ask for help from some of your friends or family.but still.I think that a nice wedding is better than a fancy ring.
Think about it and if you still think that the ring is more important ask for help or get two jobs or something.
Sorry for not thinking of anything better than this.:(
Have you tried to get a loan or checked out a pawn shop? she doesn't have to know where it came from. You might just find that a big presentation when giving the ring regardless of the fanciness or lack of, might be more what she's wanting. If you love each other money or price shouldn't matter. Just some ideas.
stay away from tiffany.
fella, I am happy for ya that you find your love. :) ring is a plus, but she want you more than anything, start with something easy like $500 under and when things are better up grade it. and that is why you can bring her the tiffany setting.
until then make one with a dollar bill
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Engagement rings aren't just jewelry. They are a symbol that you can take care of you love financially. You should spend two month's salary on a ring. If you can't do that or can't get a good ring for that, you aren't financially ready for marriage!
Hmmm. . .thinking back and looking at other people's answers. . .How fancy do you mean? Whatever you get her, expect to continue like that like it were worth two months of your salary. If she cares that much, get a better GF. If she doesn't, great!
I see you say on your profile you don't know a lot about love which is obvious because marriage is not about money its about love and commitment!! most women work now a days so they don't need a mans money! if you don't have a lot of money it doesn't mean your not ready for marriage you know "for richer,for poorer"
I disagreed because you can be financially ready, but still shift that money more towards the honeymoon or other things that count more to both of you. Two months salary is probably a guideline created by jewelers or someone who has no money worries, like Martha Stewart. And having expensive jewelry is a good way to get mugged. One actor recently was killed for a watch and a locket.
One option that you could consider would be to purchase an antique style ring at a pawn shop or estate sale. Woman love old jewelery it is usually very unique and it has history behind it. Its romantic and endearing. You can also get more for your dollar. Good luck.
If you can't afford an engagement, can you afford to get married? Rule of thumb for engagement ring budgets are that it should be equal to 3 months worth of wages.
Though the whole concept of engagement rings are antiquated. Engagement rings really only became a thing as an insurance policy to the bride incase the groom ran off or ended the engagement.
You should ask her, or a close friend of hers. Is an engagement ring even important to her?
it souldnt matter on the price, it should matter that you love her enough to marry her. if you can't get that huge dimond $2000 ring, she'll understand. and if she doesnt, she's not the right girl for you.
Get one you can affford tell her once you can afford one you will get one for her she will like the thought that you care and you really wanted to get her a fancy love but she will ove whatever you give her
If she loves you, she won't care that much that her ring isn't huge. Ask her if she'd rather wait until you can save up more money to get her a nicer one, or if shed rather get a smaller one now. More than likely, she'll take the smaller one.
i would save up a little and try to find something really pretty at a good price. Look I want a fatty ring but if I am in love with my guy and he can't afford it's ok. I'm marrying him for him not the ring.
I have always grown up telling my mom that when the person that wants to get married to proposes I want a huge rock.but you know I really don't care, if I really loved him even a sterling silver ring would be fine. =]
Yeah, my girlfriend would like one too, and I want to get her exactly the one she wants, but, I don't even have a job! I'm gonna try my hardest though.
AWWW! You could probably go and get a ring out of those gumball machines and she would care as long as the question and the intent is there.
The fact that you even thought about this question should be good enough to prove to her that you love her deeply. Hell, even the fact that you're asking her to marry you is a good indicator.
if she loves you fancy won't matter :D
dont sweat it, she'l just be happy to wear that ring on her finger lolz
just make sure its her size because its really dissapointing wen you hav a ring and can't wear it lolz
well what can you afford?
my fiance got me a beautiful one from walmart. it was 200 bucks.
not expensive and I still love it.
she'll understand. its not about the ring its about the commitment of being together.