If you are someone, who doesn't like having their "all fine and dandy" glasses of illusions taken away for just a moment...
If you are so hardcore loving marriages or are so hardcore looking forward to get married...
If you live in a fantasy world and cannot grasp on reality even for just a bit...
... then please move on to the next question NOW!
The way I see it, marriage chains 2 people together until death parts them.
Women go so super crazy after marriage and getting married.
Men are more like bewaring of it and avoiding it like the plague.
The woman gets an ridiculously overpriced wedding ceremony, that lasts for a day or 2 with a wedding ring. She gets all the attention and the wedding is usually called "HER" day, not "THEIR" day. (Yes, it's a big ass difference!)
The man can enjoy having his banks balance dropped so intense for that wedding alone, that he finds himself in thousands of $ in debt. That is up-most disturbing when finances are "mainly the man's thing".
The wife can simply cease all sexual activities right after the marriage and the only way the husband could ever get sex is either by obeying her and do all her bidding (and even then she can still say "and I will consider it"), porn or cheating. She can also start living unhealthy and gain weight at last. If she had a bad day, then she can unleash all her frustrations on her husband, who comes home from work all tired and wanting to do nothing but being at peace for just 15 minutes.
If the husband gets divorced for whatever reason, then the wife can take 50% of his assets, keep the property, gain child custody, gain entitlement money AKA alimony and she is automatically declared innocent while the husband is automatically the evildoer because genitals.
Read the update, not all text is fitting in.
Yes, that's a MGTOW topic but it's still true.
Most Helpful Girl
You're getting it wrong... The question is not why woman go crazy and out men at great risk and all.
Marriage is not about all of that,
FIRST: marriage should be wanted from both sides (my best friend never wants to get married and I understand him but He got a girl that from the start said She wanted to get married and it's important to Her. For me this is FUCKED UP (!) and I already now there will be drama about it. Things like this should be discussed from the start cause there's no sense of two people getting together if one of them don't want what the other want.)
2. Marriage is about to people that are in love with each other, become best friends and the 2 of them get to a conclusion that THEY WANT that person for them for rest of their lives and want to love them, CARE FOR EACH OTHER and be best friends with her/him aaand let the world know You are mine I am Yours.
3. Marriage is not all flowers and candy, it's hard work the other person becomes Your responsibility ( FROM BOTH SIDES!)
After a time the love will drop and the 2 have to work HARD to make the love flow in the air, that means doing sweet things to the other one so they know You love them, looking good for the other one, watching for the other one.
You gonna argue and fight and You have to know there's no walking away, You need to both work it out and You should want to cause You love the other one and You don't give up on Your loved ones ( both sides).
You now will have 2 points of view now and You can't forget that cause it's not about You anymore is about US.
IF a man pays for the wedding it should be because HE WANTS TO. If not ( and that's another way a guy can figure if the girl is really what he wants) they should split cause marriage is about to people working together NOT ONE.
About sex, sex HAS TO be in the relationship and it's not something that any of them should use as a treat for the other or a payment. You love each other You want to give pleasure to the other one. + they're are laws for that too. ^^
For me too many people don't know what marriage means but still want it cause they mistake it for something You can buy in a store and than give it back if You don't like/want it anymore.
PS. I'm a person who NEVER wants to get married soo no hate!
Soo the question should be: Why do people give up on their best friends for life and why people can't be trusted this days aaand why people think it's better to walk away form a marriage than to work on it?1
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Most Helpful Guy
Marriage is a legal and binding contract very easy to enter into. It takes a lawyer, a judge, a courthouse, sometimes years and a LOT of money to get out of. It will most likely ruin your credit rating which will take around 7 years to repair if you really, really work at it. You may end up deeper in debt. And all for signing your name on that little marriage license.
I did it two times. Both times it left me financially devistated. The second time I had to live in the woods in my jeep for a couple weeks as I had no place to go. I lost my home, most of my belongings and all my money as betwen the cost of the divorce and the final court decision on who got what I had to start over again with less than nothing. Have a payment agreement that stretches over 60 months to pay off a "dead horse" where I got absolutely nothing over this $7,400 debt. 29 monthly payments left and it is paid off.
Will I marry again? Honorable madame or sir, are you out of your fucking mind?2