My boyfriend and I have been dating on and off for 10 years. We have been living together the past two years. We are both 25 years old. I admit that his family and I have been pressuring him to get married recently. I have really been struggling with why it has taken him this long to propose. He finally bought an engagement ring about a week ago, but returned like 2 days after he bought it. He said it was because the financing for the ring was not as he thought when he purchased the ring. I feel like there is more to him returning the ring, because he seemed anxious and scared after he bought it. If you were in my situation ( what limited information you know about it), how would you take it? I want him to propose when he is ready, but if he is still unsure and nervous after all this time... maybe that's a bad sign. Any thoughts?
Most Helpful Guy
How would you feel if a whole bunch of people -- your partner included -- were pressuring you into something like this?
Most Helpful Girl
I think you both need to have an open and honest discussion about what each of you want. Not expectations or how long it's been or what his family think.
If you aren't on the same page and can't compromise to meet somewhere in the middle then it might be time to consider options.
In my opinion though I think your partner has an unfair amount of pressure on him for this. Why do you even know when he bought a ring and where it is? Did he ask for your opinion or show you prior or did you find it?
There is so much pressure on men to do the perfect proposal that's social media worthy with an expensive ring that so much of the meaning gets lost - do you want to marry this person or do you just want to be married1