obviously in "traditional" marriage the man is the one that passes down his last name but what about when gay couples get married? how do they decide who's their last name after marriage?
Most Helpful Girl
I think most gay and lesbian couples that get married keep their last names.
I have a cousin who is gay and when she got married last year, her wife changed her last name to my cousin's. I wonder how common it is.0
Most Helpful Guy
Gay/Lesbian couples always have a dominant/submissive relationship similar to men/women. One is the dominant (playing role of the man) while the other is submissive (playing role of the woman). You can sometime tell who takes this role. For example in Lesbian couples one of them tries to dress really masculine or as they say butch (this usually is the dominant one), while the other is feminine and dresses like a normal girl (this is the submissive one). So obviously the feminine one takes the butch one name.0