I want to keep my own last name after marriage but most of my guy and girl friends say it's better for the woman to just change it. I think it's a silly and sexist tradition and have no intention of listening to them. The main argument I hear is that if a woman doesn't change her name after marriage it means she doesn't love the man. That's stupid cause most women these days do ad the divorce rate is still ridiculously high. Does that mean men are to blame for all the broken marriages, since most women change their last names and therefore really love them?
Another stupid reason I get is that it's easier on the kids cause they won't have to explain why their parents have different last names. This p*sses me off cause I hear it from many divorced people. I suppose a divorce is easier for a kid to deal with than two loving parents with different last names?
People are just so afraid of change.
Guys, what would you say if your gf/fiancee wanted her own name?
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It's her choice. Not mine. And it wouldn't affect my opinion one bit. Asking her to change anything about herself--including her name--to appease me is just wrong IMO. It's her choice and her choice entirely and I'd support it whole heartedly.1