I'm 22 in college. I'm very playful but fun. I can make almost anyone laugh who has a descent personality, and I enjoy it. I'm classy and respectful. I'm not the typical guy. I don't believe in one night stands, nor believe in going after girls to hook up or "score". Don't get me wrong, I have my urges like everyone else, but I take pride and cherish the idea of a relationship. The lady friends who know me well all seem to say that they wish their boyfriend or more guys like me would come around more often and I've had countless mothers of lady friends propose to me for their daughters (as a joking matter of course). What I don't understand though is if all this is true, then how come it hasn't produced results. I'm not going to date just anyone and from what friends have told me, I have a lot of options on the table, but I don't see as many as others do. I've wanted a relationship for a good while, at least 10 years and gotten no luck. All I'm asking for is a chance to prove myself, nothing more. If ladies don't like what I have to offer, I won't say another word to them but I do not see what I'm doing wrong that other guys are doing. I'm respectful to girls, I've been called harmlessly sarcastic and I'm every bit of the term gentleman. I'm not a douche bag and I'm not an ass. I just don't understand why it hasn't produced results in my 22 years
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Most women will read this and go wow what a catch, wish my boyfriend was like him, and most guys will read this and go hmm typical nice guy, but just because your nice doesn't mean you can't get a girlfriend. Your problem has nothing to do with being nice, it's all about your attitude.
You say you cherish the idea of a relationship, which is fine and all, but your problem is your out there looking for the "one" your future wife, and it seems like you don't want to date lots of women, you want to find your future wife right now. In order for that to happen you have to go on dates with lots of women, and maybe out of those first few you pick, one might be a good match, take it from me, it took me nine different women, before I found my future girlfriend. The process is simple, you find a chick you like and you ask her on a date, and if she doesn't work out find another and another.
Just go out there to have fun, and find a chick that you want to date, but don't date a girl thinking that she is going to be your wife.1