I posted about this guy a couple of weeks ago but I'm still SO confused! So I moved across the country to move in with him and we fought about petty stuff a lot. But he had me fooled...he told me that he was SO in love with me, wanted to marry me, wanted to have kids with me, would NEVER break up with me or leave me, ever. I fell for it ALL. We lived together for one year.
I left my family, friends, school, and job to move in with him. 2700 miles. In August I came back to my state to visit my family and he stayed back to spend some time with his. (And also to work on ourselves and figure out how to fix our relationship problems) I stayed for a month and then in September I came back. Things were a LOT better.
We fought less, were happier, etc. I started noticing he was less affectionate with me then EVER. But we still went to look at engagement rings. However, 3 days later, I called him out on his unaffection and he ended up telling me when he thinks about our future he gets a bad feeling, he told me the thought of me leaving relieves him (but he'd still miss me), he told me he had the urge to check out other girls while I was gone, he told me he doesn't see me in the same way he used to. He pretty much agreed that I should leave. So I did.
On my three day trip back home, I called him & NO answer. He hasn't text me or called me since. I am jobless now & he did not even offer to help. He did not even ask if I arrived safe. This is SO not who I thought he was. I thought he would at least, in a friendly way, ask how I am, especially since he only gave me $400 ( I didn't work out there because we decided for me to travel with him for his work) and didn't even check my car. It's been over 2 weeks and he did not even attempt to contact me. We had the same cell so I've seen that he's been talking all his family & friends.
What do you guys think he's thinking? He told a mutual friend that he misses me but he's confused.I really thought he'd at least contact me in some kind of way. He was my best friend. And I DO NOT want to contact him again because he ignored my last call (I was on the road, I could've been hurt, you know?). Please give me some feedback as to what you think & if you think he'll call me again).
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First paragraph - Sounds like he doesn't want to get bitched out.
Second paragraph - You were getting serious, quick.. He wasn't mentioned.
Third paragraph - Fight happens, he told you he wasn't interested
Fourth paragraph - He gave you $400 when he didn't have to give you anything. It's your responsibility to find a way home if you were leaving that town. Honestly, you sound ungrateful here.
Last paragraph - I'm repulsed by the kind of mindset you have.. "And I DO NOT want to contact him again because he ignored my last call (I was on the road, I could've been hurt".. You sound like a snob.
In his shoes, I wouldn't be calling because I wouldn't have any reason to. Think of everything I listed above: Ungrateful, snob, etc.. Any of that show that you were the bigger person?
You made the choice to move in so quick and further listen to his fake words: "Marry me, I want your kids, etc".. But if you would have slowed things down a notch, you could have seen straight through him and those words.
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