Right now I'm pretty broke and don't have a lot of cash... But I know me and my girlfriend are madly in love with each other and she's always sending me messages saying how she can't wait to get engaged to me... So should I or could I propose to her with out a ring or should I sell my motorcycle or something to be able to afford one?
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Here's my first response to this: why do you want to propose to her? Because she wants you to? Because you're just madly in love? Obviously you don't have a whole lot of detail here and I could just be making assumptions, but I guess the idea I'm getting is that it might be kinda pointless.
Don't be getting engaged unless you can be married. Notice I said BE married. Anyone can GET married - that's the fun & easy part. But forever's a hell of a long time and it's usually full of all kinda of crap, the likes of which you'll only get through if you make the right decision with who you're marrying and when/why.
Having said all of that, I'd never accept a proposal from a guy without a ring. That may well sound shallow. But essentially, if we know each other well enough to get married, then he should know me well enough to at least have some kind of idea of what kind of ring I'd like, what size my finger might be, and he should definitely have enough money for one. Not a hugely expensive one, that's not the point. But how are you going to pay for the wedding, honeymoon, house, kids etc if you can't even buy the ring?
There's also the idea that you might just be doing it on impulse if it's a cheap/non-existent ring. if you've bought something expensive, you've probably spent some time thinking about it (unless you're filthy rich, that's separate) whereas if it cost a tenner, maybe you just bought it on your way home from work today and figured it might be fun.
I know other girls will disagree with me, and that's fine, but that's the way I see it. Like selfishstars said - it depends on the girl. Essentially, if you propose without a ring, you risk disappointing her or not being taken seriously. But she may well have no problem with it, like the others said. It shouldn't be about money, and if she's demanding massive diamonds or no wedding, then you might wanna go for the second option there. But consider what I've said in making your decision =]0