I came across this in a interview of a feminist blog I sometime stop in on.
"I am a magazine addict, and if I pick up one more magazine that reads “So-and-so is pregnant,” or “So-and-so was the happiest she’s ever been during the nine months of her pregnancy,” I am going to scream! So, in some ways, young women may be more connected to these gender scripts than we were, because marriage and motherhood is at the center of popular discourse.
I also think that Christianity and all of its messages and norms of marriage and motherhood keeps people trapped. Its messages are hard to ignore, so I think that black women really need more models. They don’t see women who say, “I chose not to have children and opted out of marriage, and this is why and it was the best decision I ever made in my life.” I wish that Oprah would address that, but she doesn’t."
Well, maybe I'm being judgmental..but seriously I think its stupid that she thinks children and moms shouldn't get attention. Society VALUES these things! It's just human nature..and no one is ragging on them for their life choices...I think personally they feel like they are inadequate and lash out at others. what do you think?
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I agree with you, anonymous. Motherhood and marriage are two very honorable roles a woman can fill. People neglect to consider how important it is to raise strong and healthy children in a healthy environment (which includes a healthy marriage). Women have the chance to shape a whole generation of citizens... that is a HUGE cause.
Feminism really is a touchy subject. I'm a pretty reasonable person, but I'll abandon diplomacy for a moment and be frank. Personally, I think feminism kind of screwed us over. I think that in two-parent working families, many times there is a breakdown of the family unit. Consider latch-key kids who take care of themselves for hours without supervision.. seeing their parents for only a few hours of each day. Second, if more women chose to be a stay at home mother, there would be more jobs with higher pay for fathers. And if stay at home mothers helped build stronger families, perhaps people would find more satisfaction in community and relationship, and stop putting themselves into debt over the pleasures of materialism. I don't know.. haven't thought through these ideas extensively, but perhaps they're worth considering.
I'm not quite sure where you're going with Christianity in this idea, but I grew up in the Christian church, and I would say that it has only marginally affected my own personal choice to be a stay at home mother when the time comes. In fact, I grew up with career ambitions, and it has only been after several years of trying to "make it" in the professional world that I've realized that it doesn't work with who I am.0