My boyfriend & I are both 19. When we first started dating, within about two weeks or so, he was already pressuring me for sex. I was a virgin at the time & I wasn't ready that soon to give that away to him, yet he kept on asking. About 3 months into our relationship, I lost my virginity to him. We did fight some in the beginning of our relationship, but only over small things that I would soon get over. About 5-6 months into our relationship, I went on a camping trip & during that time he called me up saying that he wanted to take a break & that he wanted to visit his mom. I knew something was up so he finally told me that he made out with a girl without their shirts on. It killed me but I knew I couldn't be with a cheater so I broke up with him. About 3 months down the road after our break up, I couldn't take not being with him anymore so he found me on this website & we started talking again. When I saw him, I found out he had a girlfriend & he wanted to see if things would work out with her before going out with me again so I stopped talking to him again. 2 months later we started talking again and we dated for about 3 straight months where he saw me every day and that's when I really started to fall in love with him. He proposed to me with a ring & I of course accepted it. His friend told me that two weeks after he proposed he had cheated on me again & I came to find out that those facts were true. I was absolutely devastated, but once again I decided to forgive him & we even read a whole book together on relationships & forgiveness. He acted like he really wanted to change, but 3 more months down the road things started getting rocky again. Out of no where he said he wanted a break & to see his friends more. I let that go for about 2 weeks but couldn't take it anymore so I broke up with him. His friend came over to my house after we had been broken up & told me that he already had a new girlfriend 4 days after our break up & acted like he didn't miss me at all. I tried my hardest to move on but once again, 3 months later I couldn't take it anymore so I went back to him again. I came up with a list of certain things he had to do in order to get me back(ie: counseling, seeing me often enough, respecting me, no cheating, etc) He agreed to the list & signed it, but I've yet to see him do any of those things & it's already been almost 2 months. We have matching tattoos from the past, he's almost ran out in front of cars for me, he's cut himself over me, he bought me a 200 dollar tattoo for my birthday, & even bought a ring & proposed to me. He says there's no one else out there that makes him as happy as I do yet he's never changed. He's only seen me 3 times in the past 2 weeks & has texted/called less than ever. We have fought a lot in our relationship, but all do to his past actions and him treating me bad. I don't know what to do- I straight up asked me if he wants to be with me and he said yes, so why does he act this way? Please help.
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I really hate to sound mean, but you're really stupid :\ STOP TALKING TO HIM AT ALL! Stop seeing him at all, stop thinking about him at all. Yes that's hard, yes I know the pain, but because I know, I also know that it is quite doable to get over it. You focus on ANYTHING else you have to. Focus on something productive, work, school, etc. Stop. If he tries to get in touch with you, ignore him. He is NOT worth your time. Not in the SLIGHTEST.
He acts that way because he is LYING. Say it with me? Lying. He can't settle for one girl, he can't really care about anyone other than himself and getting himself off. He just wants to keep you around always cause you're always so willing to be with him despite his obvious disgusting attitude. Tell him to go f*** off. And if you want to tell him who told you to say it, tell him it was me on here. Tell him he can hunt me down if he wants. I'll happily end his life with my bare hands. Scum like that, they need to die off.
I honestly hate it when a douche just uses a girl, but I really don't like when a girl who knows he's a douche stays with him cause "I love him and I can make him change." No, you can't, he won't change. Drop his ass.0