We dated since 16. She told me she wanted to be married by 28, I was working on making that happen. I wanted it to be perfect.
She left and immediately is with another guy. She says she is angry and frustrated that the relationship was not going anywhere. Should I just propose? Should I move on?
I love her with all my heart and seeing her with another guy is killing me, especially knowing that if I had have just popped the question she would still be with me.
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She's rebounding big time. Trying to do something to move on with her life and get past this and get past you. It's clear she felt frustrated with the relationship and felt it was going nowhere. Which is perfectly normal if you are going out that long. Any relationship should be progressing. She probably was afraid you would never want to marry her. So she is trying to move on.
Now it is also possible she needed to confirm her feelings for you were still the real thing, especially if you two have been together so long. This relationship is all you have ever known. She may have had doubts and just needed a bit of space from you to see if her feelings were real or if you two were together out of habit. And it's possible she was using the marriage thing as an excuse to get out of the relationship because of this.
Either way - it sounds like you should write her a letter, brief and to the point. Then give her bit of time to respond. Then the ball is in her court and you have done all you can do and you should have no regrets after that because if you are not together after that it is because SHE chose that - not you. And it is very important at the end of a relationship to have no regrets because they will haunt you when you try to move forward.