My boyfriend won't propose.
So here's the situation. My boyfriend and I have been dating for 2 and a half years and living together for a year and a half. We've been talking... Show More
Most Helpful Opinion
If your relationship is otherwise healthy there is no reason to leave him. Talking about marriage is OK on your part (don't over do it and if he gets annoyed lay off the subject for a few days/weeks/months) but if you talk about him proposing he will resist and push it father off. This won't be to spite you but no guy wants to feel pushed into asking a girl to marry him even if he is very much in love with that girl. I know this won't be the greatest thing to hear but many girls would much rather be in your shoes right now, first, you have a boyfriend, second he is willing to talk about and consider marriage. Again my whole answer is based on the presumption that it is an otherwise healthy relationship.
What Guys Said 5
If you wouldn't be happy living with this guy forever and not married (which is a possibility) then give him a reasonable deadline and move on if he isn't willing and marriage is crucial to you.
To me your conduct towards each other seems more important than the ceremony. If there are kids involved or one of you dies then marriage definitely has benefits (vs having no rights against each other or each others' estate), otherwise a good relationship is worth holding onto.
You can't make him propose.
Maybe he's just not as committed as you. You shouldn't leave him just because he's not committing. That's as if you're forcing him to be with you, in a way.
dont leave him over this, if he wants to wait a few years to get married it means he wants to get married, he just needs some time for that level of commitment. he's already living iwth you, that should show he cares, and while engagement and marriage isn't the same, engagement is still a big step that he may need time for, especaily considering 2-3 years until marriage is a long time, there's no rush on teh proposal. and if it really means that much to you, why don't you propose to him?
I don't think you should have to wait 2-3 years more if you have already started talking about it. But I don't think you should throw in the towel quite yet. Let him know that you will not wait that long, and then give him another 6 months to make his move. Just remember that the longer he makes you wait, the less he needs to propose because you will be less willing to call things off and start from scratch with someone else.
What Girls Said 2
I once had a complete meltdown in bed with my now husband because I felt he was never going to propose...what I didn't know is that he already had the ring and was waiting "for the right moment" he was planning this big event and it kinda pissed him off that I almost ruined itlol I feel bad about how I acted now but I know exactly how you feel. Just be patient alittle while longer. I know it's frustrating though ...Good luck!
My ex hubby sounds very "similar" to the guy that you are dating. Our courtship lasted 3 years before he proposed and we lived together for 2 of the 3 years before we got engaged.
I would hang in there -- you are so young -- and there's really no rush. I would suggest to him "drop him hints" that you are looking for a LONG engagement and not to rush in to marriage right away. That might qwell is fears of an immediate nuptuals that might not fit into his plans.
The impetus for my ex proposing was simply because he adored me -- and it was the right time for both of us. He had graduated from Uni -- and I was going into grad school. We wanted to start our life together and I wasn't in a rush. He actually had the ring for 6 months before he proposed. I found it while cleaning the house.
That being said -- because we met so young -- and started dating when I was 19 -- we eventually out grew our relationship with one another and are now divorced. Although we are still very close friends. My life and career took a different direction -- and he wanted the stay at home wife, white picket fence and to smoke weed and play playstation all day. We just wanted different things and had to let go.
So make sure that the decision you are making -- is the right one. In that (like me at the time) I was focused on marriage because it seemed everyone else was doing it... and not that we were the right fit for the long haul. This is the REST OF YOUR LIFE together... make sure you are truly committed to the for-better or worse... and that he isn't staulling becauase he's waiting for someone better to come along.