a) take it slowly, get to know him, see where things go and maybe have sex after 7-9 months
b) save it till engagement / marriage?
I am a sweet girl, career-minded, adventurous, down-to-earth, pretty, but nerdy as well. I respect myself and respect guys that I am going out with, but I don't want to find myself in a situation where I'm dating a guy who isn't too serious or just wants to take advantage or play games. What would you suggest?
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It's hard to say and I don't think a) or b) matters as much as the individual situation. I wouldn't do it any sooner than (a) but if you guys are just fireworks together and it's like a life changing relationship and you BOTH want to do it then you might want to do it before marriage. You go by your own standards and if the guy respects you and truly loves you it won't be a problem AT ALL if he has to wait. It doesn't matter what kind of downward spiral the rest of the world is going down, you do your thing and if he isn't cool with that then maybe HE isn't marriage material. I waited 3 years with a girl and then it didn't even work out in the end cause she turned out to be kind of a bad person. So he can do it if he really loves you. You do what makes you comfortable in your own skin, only then can you really feel completely and deeply comfortable against somebody elses. Sex should not only feel good at the moment but also looking back on it, you should still feel good about the choice you made. Only then is it really fulfilling and worth it to me. I hope this helps.2