I have been with my fiance for 4 years. But it seems the closer and closer we get to the wedding, the less and less he seems to appreciate me. We have drama on the side also. We disinvited his sister from the wedding because she is bipolar and harrassed me (threatening phone calls, facebook posts etc.) because she was convinced that I was going to steal her son away from her just like I stole her brother away. She has treated him (my fiance) like crap all his life. When we first got together he had really low self esteem. So I told him to stand up for himself. Which he did leading to her rampage on me and the disinvitation. Now his family keeps pressuring him to invite her. I could care less if he really wanted her to come, I mean its still his sister. But I don't like the fact his family is trying to strong arm him into inviting her. I also don't like the fact that his family doesn't consider my feelings in the equation either. I am going to be his wife so they should also consider not only his feelings but mine also. I mean she cursed our wedding, and said she hoped that we get divorced or that I die. I don't really want someone like that in the front row on our special day. If she disapproves our union then she shouldn't be there. I want to allow her to come for the sake of my fiance, but shouldn't his family respect our wishes? Should I have the right to tell him not to invite his sister? Should he understand? I don't know I'm lost. But it seems to me he is paying less and less attention to me since the ordeal. He isn't as loving anymore...like he just knows ill be his forever so why put in the effort anymore...And whenever I try to talk to him about it he freaks out...tells me I'm overreacting...but if he can't regard my feelings and stand up for them...how are we going to make a marriage work? Or is this just the curse of his sister coming true? I am at a loss. I love him more then air...but I can't spend a marriage with someone else, feeling alone...sigh what should I do?
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It's really hard on your part if your in a situation were a family member of your future husband is against your relationship specially the marriage..Your making your guy choose over you and his sister.But the truth is at the end of the day, in your current relationship the 2 of your are the ones who is there to help and understand each other..both of you handle the relationship..not the relatives..If your guy doesn't understand that knowing she will ruin the wedding you better thinks of calling it off.. so what if she says she will jinx or ruin the marriage if your guy can't put a socket to her sister's runts you won't have a decent marriage..Some couple go the distance just to prove to their families that they want each other and make things work..Unless he stands up for you marrying him won't be worth it but if you still want this to work try to cancel this or postpone the wedding before you regret any decisions further..You can't make his sister like you..if she acts like a psychopath then leave her alone..your relationship is not with her but his brother1