Some females are going to say this is wrong but here is the question If your marriage is dead and don't care to fix it just going through the day to day life until your kids are older then going to divorce. Is it wrong to have a friend out side of your marriage you don't have any physical contact with this other person just. Texting, pictures, and late night phone calls is this truly wrong. And is there any females in the same boat I am in that feel there marriage is more of a job then a life and don't have much pleasure in it just can't leave it right now for many different reasons? Or am I alone here
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It depends on whether or not this is alright with your wife. I think you need to discuss your marriage with her and decide together whether you are BOTH ready to give up and get a divorce or separate, or whether you want to keep trying. You are still in a marriage, and you have to face that fact rather than running away from it.
Personally I don't support the idea of staying together for the sake of your kids. It's true that it's best for children to live with both of their parents, but if your marriage is dead, your home is already broken. Your children will pick up on the fact that something isn't right between you and your wife; they're very intuitive and in tune with their families and surroundings. They aren't as oblivious as you may think they are. And they will survive a divorce or separation; just make sure you and their mother both reassure them that it's not their fault, you love them, they'll still get to see both of you, etc. You're not doing your kids any favors by faking for them.1
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