I'm 17, soon to be 18, and my boyfriend just turned 20. we've been dating for almost 10 months and still going strong. I love him soooo much, and I know he feels the same way, but he's my first boyfriend that lasted more than 3 weeks, and I gave him my virginity. I want to spend my life with him, but I've never really thought about marriage, and he's droping major hints that he's getting me 'the ring'for my birthday. He's also asked that I move in with him when I turn 18.( currently I live with on my own, but my parents pay my rent, as they moved out of town) All this is happening so fast!Ive asked to wait until I'm out of highschool to move in, even he he does ask me to marry him, for many reasons, including stress levels, homework, and wanting a semi-normal grad year. He says ok, but I know he doesn't understand why, and is hurt by it. For the average person, is this moving to fast? Should I wait? Should I move in? Pls help
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You are moving way too fast for a seventeen year old. I dated a boy in high school for 2.5 years. I was convinced that he was THE ONE and that we would be together forever. He constantly talked about how we would spend our lives together. We broke up halfway through freshman year of college. I don't even speak to him anymore because I have grown up so much since we dated and I no longer remember what I saw in him at the time.
I tell you this story to show you how someone who can but such a HUGE part of our lives one year can be completely out of our lives the next. You are far too young to be thinking about marriage and moving in with your boyfriend. If things are so great in your relationship, then he should respect that you are very young and need to experience life and make your own choices before settling down.
You can continue to date him and love him just the same while living with a friend or anyone but him. Perhaps in a few years (say 5 or 6) you will know more about yourself (as in who you are and what you want out of life) and you will be able to make that commitment. I don't know if you've read up on the stats lately, but about half of marriages end in divorce and the younger you are when you get married, the more likely you are to get divorced.