my ex and I dated for three years. the past year was just horrible. he finally broke up with me and didn't talk to me for a month. then he came back really missing me so we hooked up twice. any part of me that had moved on before that went away and I fell for him all over again. then a week later he got a gf. weve remained friends even though he tells me he has very strong feelings for me. this is killing me. I tried to walk away once but he flipped out and it was hard becaue he is my best friend so I went back. the bullshit is continuing for example saturday he said I'm dating her, but I don't know how has my heart. her or you. I just can't take it anymore. I haven't talked to him for three days now and feel oddly happy. should I keep it up or could I be passing up my soulmate.
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i think you're wasting your time. I was in a similar situation as yourself. I was with another girl for 2 years. for the first year, it was absolute bliss, then things started to turn sour. Every day I would want to go see her, yet the second we did meet up, we started getting on each other's nerves. One day, we both decided that it would be better if we both moved on. To this day, we are still friends. Now I'm not saying that we are best friends, but we are still in the friends circle (we still hang out from time to time with a group of friends and it doesn't feel awkward). I ended up meeting this incredible girl, the one of my dreams perhaps, three years ago. We ended up dating and just recently this past May, I got down on one knee and proposed to her. What I'm trying to say is, we still have good days and bad days. In the span of a month, we may have a disagreement if not none. Both of us don't try to impress the other, we just act normally. If you are in a situation where it seems as though you've fallen for someone and just want to stay together because it's been 3 years, I think you're doing the wrong thing. A relationship, to me, is one where both people care about each other and know where their heart is set. it seems as though, after 3 years, your boyfriend still has no clue where his heart lies. If I were you, I'd move on. it's not easy after 3 years, but you deserve better.
I hope things work out for you.