I really need help here. My best friend is just turning 20 years old July 16th, I am 22 years old and I love her like a little sister. She met this guy maybe about two years ago. They only went out for one year and after 6 months he asked her to marry him. Now I know I should but out of this but I love my best friend a lot and to see her hurt will want me to break her boyfriend's face. This is what I do not like about him and why I think they are two young.
1: Whenever I see her, he ignores her and talks to me. When she joins in he would be like "babe we where off that topic hours ago"
2: Also when I am around he talks about sex way to much, and how he don't care where her first time (yes she is a virgin) is.
3: He moved in after a month at her parents house. Then got kicked out.
4: They have a joint account all ready
5: He wants to buy a apartment and move in there with her.
6: He had sex loads of times be for he was with her.
7: He sometimes treats her badly. They fight over stupid things and I mean stupid. He made her cry once over something that was not her fault.
8: He tells her what to do.
9: THEY ARE TO YOUNG 19 and 20 is to young to make these choices. If they where a couple longer then fine but only a year of dating? That is what worries me that he will hurt her because this is her first serious boyfriend.
Please help, I just need a way to talk to her with out her getting mad. She is like my little sis and I know I should stay out of it, but I just want some advice for her.
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I completely agree- I think this is wrong.
The trick is how can you bring it up to her so that it makes sense to her without hurting her feelings. At the same time though, it's sometimes useful to let people make their own mistakes... anyways:
1) Take her somewhere for a girls night out, or maybe a weekend and put some effort into getting her alone for a bit and talk to her straight up, maybe after a few drinks.
2) You might not be as open to this idea as much... But you could always hook up with him, and then get him to leave her? Tell her afterward it was for her own good. Although this is a ridiculous plan, if you feel that she's getting herself into a situation that's worse than just bad this could be an option.