I need your help.
I am a Indian and in love with a German woman. It is almost a year, we know each other. But we live in our countries only. She and me met our in-laws. We are planning to be together soon.
As I am from India and my family gives more emphasis on marriage and family, of course, I also wish to marry, because I am 32 now. I need to understand few terminology, from western, it helps me in understanding.
1) Living together and marriage are same or not? (Apart from legal things)
2) My fiance and I, discussed about marriage a lot times and cleared few things. But anyhow she feels stressed with "marrying" or moreover for her marriage and living together is same. She told that she also want to marry, but feels stressed, with that.
3) In west, is there no role for parents in their kids marriage. I am free to choose who should be my wife, but in certain things, my parents have their role and I think it helps(Indian brain/style).
No racial comments, please. It is all about culture, family&moral values and life-style.
For point two, I have read few things from internet, that marriage and living together are almost same & at the same time not. My experiences from few people is my life says that living together is a free way to get out of relationship anytime, without legal proceedings. In marriage also people take divorce, anyhow, my wife is not that lucky to get from me under any circumstances :)
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1) Living together is when you're getting serious in a relationship, the next step might be marriage. It's like a trial step, to see if you guys are compatible. The difference is it's not official, and most people wait for marriage before having kids.
2) Maybe she's not ready to get married yet. Some people live together as a couple and don't marry, because they don't feel it's necessary, or they have other reasons. However, she did say she wants to, so perhaps you just need to give her some time.
3) I think often people want their parents to approve of the person they're marrying, but I don't think they have veto rights like they have in India. Parents generally don't play as a big a part in helping their son or daughter find a partner.0
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