I'm 19 going on 20. Whenever I hear of someone from high school or even a few college friends that have decided to get married, I remain in a state of shock. I honestly don't see the point; and I'm also afraid of very committed relationships. I had a boyfriend for nearly one year (my only relationship ever), but when he started clinging a lot and discussing children and marriage I freaked and wanted out. Does this mean I'm immature?
It discourages me to see long-term relationships fizzle, divorce, separate, or cheat on one another. Many older people claim to regret ever getting married. Also, I feel like there is always someone better out there than the person I'm currently with.
All in all, most of the time it seems to me that "love" is more of a fairy tale than a reality. =( Is this normal?
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Its normal for someone your age to feel this way. You still have a lot of life to live yet and most people your age are not thinking of settling down and having a family quite yet.
I can also understand why you are hesitant to get committed because of all the sad stories you hear of other people going through rough divorces and failed romances. I wouldn't worry too much about that. Just enjoy your life. Explore who you are and focus on developing yourself as a person. Don't worry about settling down or committing yourself if you are not ready. That would not be fair to a potential partner.
I think you are perfectly normal, I know a lot of friends who would love to be in your position. They were like you when they were younger, but they had kids unexpectedly. And although they love their kids very much, they are missing out on young adulthood. They always tell me how much they envy my ability to do what I want whenever I want. It's best to just let things happen naturally, and right now for you that means to just enjoy your life. Don't have to rush into anything just yet, you have lots of time for that!1