"Do you want to marry me" or "will you marry me" What's the difference between two marriage proposals?

[icdrico]

My boyfriend asked me the question "do you want to marry me?" I said that I didn't see any reason of not marrying him...

Now I was wondering about the difference between "do you want to marry me" and "will you marry me"

any ideas?

[ShootingStar5]

Well if he wasn't down on one knee offering you a ring then it wasn't an official proposal. "Do you want to marry me?" is probably his way of finding out if you would want to marry him before making an actual proposal. He's asking if you WANT to marry him, but not if you WILL marry him. "Will you marry me?" is the actual proposal. He's asking if you WILL agree to be his future bride right then and there. At least that's how I understand it.

[knowmeyourself]

Guys don't think that much, dear. Read the guy's comment on my answer.

[ShootingStar5]

That's one guy though, that's not all guys. The guy who commented above is more in line with my thinking. So that's 50/50 lol

[Anonymous]

No difference at all. Guys don't over-think like we girls do.

[superuss]

I could not agree more. It would have never crossed my mind that there could be a difference in "Will you marry me?" and "Do you want to marry me?"

[ShootingStar5]

But there is a difference between "do you want to" and "will you" look it up in the dictionary. They technically don't mean the same thing. "Do you want to" is more hypothetical where "will you" is more definitive.

[Opinion Owner]

I can speak English, thank you :)

[ShootingStar5]

I wasn't trying to insult you lol. I'm just saying that they do technically mean different things.

[icdrico]

wow, it seems that there's an argument in here

[ShootingStar5]

Not really.

[icdrico]

I see. I thought that you guys are already arguing :p

[Ellesi]

@ShootingStar5 exactly my thoughts. They are definitely not the same

[briven]

will you marry me is "a hypothetical situation"

[rocksongwriter]

I disagree. I see "will you marry me" as a direct question...as in what guys say when they pop the question.

I see "do you want to marry me" as a general inquiry. I guess I see neither as a hypothetical situation, but I see "do you want to marry me" as the closest to a hypothetical situation.

[rocksongwriter]

I see "do you want to marry me" as kind of 'testing the waters' prior to popping the question. So if a guy asks "do you want to marry me", and a girl says yes, the guy will follow up sometime later with "will you marry me".

Another way to look at it is seeing "do you WANT to marry me" as a way to see what the girl wants - would she be up to the idea or not. "WILL you marry me" is testing the commitment - a guy is asking a girl if she will actually follow through it marrying him.

[rocksongwriter]

...like "WILL you marry me" means "WILL this event (wedding) for sure happen in the future without a doubt?"

[ShootingStar5]

I agree with rocksongwriter.

[icdrico]

I see, thanks for the wonderful insight. Anyway, he also told me that by the time that I will pay him a visit he will do something wonderful.

[ShootingStar5]

Sounds like we were right then :)